(Closed) Invite some guests to drinks and dancing but not dinner….

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

How would you get those people there just for drinks and dancing to leave?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Just a warning your probably going to get flamed for bein rude for asking about a tiered reception. I think it’s a good idea but I’m also having a tiered reception it’s the best way to include everyone when you are limited in other ways like space or money

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Assuming you’re having dinner first, that could work πŸ™‚

We’re extending an open invitation to much of the local community to stick their heads in and check out the wedding if they want to (and have a few drinks or a dance while they’re at it!). As long as the venue is okay with it, and you word it properly to guests so no one thinks they’re invited to the whole party when they’re not, then it should be fine.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Wait so their friends don’t come to the ceremony either?  just dancing and drinks like at the bar?

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t think I’ve ever been to a tiered reception. Honestly, if I was invited, I’d probably decline. I know you want friends to come but I don’t think any guest likes to be aware they didn’t make the cut to be invited to the whole reception. Ultimately, it’s your wedding and your friends. You’re a better judge of gauging their reactions.  

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@lolson614:  If your not going to include the guest at the entire reception and feed them, than you don’t invite them at all. Its rude and if I got an invitation being invited to the reception but only after the dinner was served I would not attend!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I guess it depends on your crowd and if it would be an open bar (or you get an amazing one of the best dj’s in town).  I know there are some people in my group of friends that would be okay with being invited if they have access to an amazing dj and free drinks but there are others which would be INCREDIBLY insulted.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would be uncomfortable with this kind of invitation and most likely decline. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Not a good idea. You would end up insulting people or coming across as gift grabby. People might be more understanding if you were having an intimate family gathering and then an after party with everyone else.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Depending on where you’re from, it is normal to invite x amount of people to dinner, and then invite so many more for drinks and dancing afterwards. So to the people saying it’s the hight of rudeness to even consider such a thing: it’s only rude in your community and/or circles πŸ™‚

@lolson614:  Personally, I would ensure those people invited to the drinks/dancing portion only were not required to bring a gift (you’ve probably already thought about that). Otherwise, have at it! And have a good time πŸ˜€

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’ve never heard of anything like that. I wouldn’t go that route just seems insulting to your guest.

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