(Closed) Invite the boss?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I was sort of in your same situation and I invited both bosses. The top boss I’ve known for years and he had a big hand in me getting hired at my job. The other boss was really nice and it was a courtousy invitation but I was happy about it. Neither of them came, but I’m sure they appreciated the invite.

Post # 4
1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I understand your situation.  I chose not to invite my boss and my old boss who i was friends with (and his wife & kids).  I thought it was easiest this way since I didn’t invite anyone from work.  I was able to relax more without worrying about such things!

Post # 5
499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Where I work, the boss could never come because of the rules on how they relate to employees. So I wouldn’t invite my boss. But your workplace may be different.

Post # 7
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

This is so hard for me too! I even babysit my boss’s daughter when shes sick- as in instead of being in the office I watch her all day.

My worry is drinking and dancing all night with my boss there eeek!

Post # 8
759 posts
Busy bee

I would invite your direct boss, since you do have some personal convos with her and have been working for her for a while.  But if you haven’t invited anyone else from work, I would pass on the invite.  I definitely wouldn’t invite the upper level boss since your relationship seems to be different with her/him.

Post # 10
2889 posts
Sugar bee

I had the same question but I invited all of my colleagues (7) sicne we often hang out outside of work and celebrate birthdays, etc. However, my wedding is a bit of a destination and involves a lot of travel so I know my boss would not attend. It looksl ike none of my colleagues will be able to make it either. I just didn’T want someone asking for time off for my wedding and my boss being left out. On the other hand, like you I don’t want her to feel like it is a weird invitation or an obligation to buy a gift. As of now, I decided not to invite her due to awkard potential.

In your case, I would most likely invite the one you work with but not the head boss.

Post # 12
1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Always a tough choice….I wouldn’t invite either boss.  You could always go with the basis that you are not inviting anyone from the workplace.  Then if someone does ask, you can just say that is was a smaller function for family and close friends only.  Then no one from work feels left out because no one from work was invited.  Good luck!

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