Post # 1
I was just curious about your opinions on inviting the boss (or bosses) to my wedding. I’ve been freelancing with a company since December and have been here full-time since April. My wedding is in October and I’m about to send out invites right now.
I work directly under one of them and I can tell she’s fun outside of work and infrequently get into conversations about our personal life, but nothing major.
I almost feel obligated to invite her and the higher-up boss as a ‘thank you’ for hiring me… but is that ridiculous? they’ve also been really good about me taking off work for other weddings I’m in the next few months…
Let me know what you think! Thanks!
Post # 3
I was sort of in your same situation and I invited both bosses. The top boss I’ve known for years and he had a big hand in me getting hired at my job. The other boss was really nice and it was a courtousy invitation but I was happy about it. Neither of them came, but I’m sure they appreciated the invite.
Post # 4
I understand your situation. I chose not to invite my boss and my old boss who i was friends with (and his wife & kids). I thought it was easiest this way since I didn’t invite anyone from work. I was able to relax more without worrying about such things!
Post # 5
Where I work, the boss could never come because of the rules on how they relate to employees. So I wouldn’t invite my boss. But your workplace may be different.
Post # 6
hmmm… i don’t think we have any rules here at work on how we relate… i guess i just don’t want to make them feel like they have to buy me a gift… or think that i’m a weirdo to invite because honestly, i barely know them… it’s more of a ‘thank you’ gesture
Post # 7
This is so hard for me too! I even babysit my boss’s daughter when shes sick- as in instead of being in the office I watch her all day.
My worry is drinking and dancing all night with my boss there eeek!
Post # 8
I would invite your direct boss, since you do have some personal convos with her and have been working for her for a while. But if you haven’t invited anyone else from work, I would pass on the invite. I definitely wouldn’t invite the upper level boss since your relationship seems to be different with her/him.
Post # 9
haha that’s my worry too mischelleez!
see, the thing with the ‘higher’ boss is that i think she’s the one who actually got me hired, so i feel strange not acknowledging her too… even though yes, i barely see her so i have basically a none existent relationship with her (plus she’s really intimidating sometimes, lol)
Post # 10
I had the same question but I invited all of my colleagues (7) sicne we often hang out outside of work and celebrate birthdays, etc. However, my wedding is a bit of a destination and involves a lot of travel so I know my boss would not attend. It looksl ike none of my colleagues will be able to make it either. I just didn’T want someone asking for time off for my wedding and my boss being left out. On the other hand, like you I don’t want her to feel like it is a weird invitation or an obligation to buy a gift. As of now, I decided not to invite her due to awkard potential.
In your case, I would most likely invite the one you work with but not the head boss.
Post # 11
i literally only sent out my invites last week and am still torn about inviting my boss! ahhh!
she never asks about my wedding… but we talk about stuff we did on the weekends if anything. i almost think she doesn’t ask about my wedding on purpose? but i don’t know if that’s because she doesn’t want the awkwardness of the invite or because she would feel bad making me feel like i have to invite her? even when i told her the dates i needed to take off for our honeymoon (partly why i feel guilty about not invite her is because they’ve been so great at me taking a week and a half off) she didnt ask where.
i’m inclined to not invite her just based on the fact that i want to be comfortable at my own wedding and drink and dance without being embarrassed that my boss is there. plus im in the design world and im afraid that she’ll be judging my design choices… lol
Post # 12
Always a tough choice….I wouldn’t invite either boss. You could always go with the basis that you are not inviting anyone from the workplace. Then if someone does ask, you can just say that is was a smaller function for family and close friends only. Then no one from work feels left out because no one from work was invited. Good luck!
Post # 13
thanks ‘dance’ for your sound advance. 🙂
thank you all!