(Closed) Invite the Organist?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I don’t know about etiquette but my gut says that unless you have a personal relationship with the organist, there’s no obligation.  If you feel like you’d like to do something to thank this person, you could always send them a thank you note and bottle of wine.



Post # 4
497 posts
Helper bee

I am a wedding soloist and my sister is a pastor.  While you should extend an invitation to the officiant, the soloist, organist, and any other church organizer (some churches have specific wedding organizers) do not need to be invited.

Post # 5
36 posts

I actually have a few ceremony musicians, including organists, in my family and they agree with the bees above – you do not need to invite the organist.  In fact, unless you consider your organist a friend, he/she might feel awkward about receiving an invitation to a stranger’s wedding!

Post # 6
3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I think it really depends on a few things:

1. If you are paying the musician or not.
2. If you have any sort of relationship with them

If the musician is paid & doing you a service, I don’t feel like they need to be invited to the reception.

If it is a church organist or member who you know, regardless of how close you are, I would definitely invite them to the reception.

If the person is a stranger, I would maybe offer them a small gift thanking them for their help during the cermony. 

Post # 7
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I agree with the others: If you know the organist, invite them. But if you’re just paying them to play your wedding and you’ve got no other connetion, there’s no need to invite them or get any other gift. Your payment for service rendered is all that is necessary.

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