Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2009 - Harbison Chapel & The Maple Lane Farm
I see that the etiquette seems to be a "yes" to the question of inviting your officiant & spouse, but what about the organist, or ceremony musician? I couldn’t find any word on the proper etiquette in my google search…anyone know?
Post # 3
I don’t know about etiquette but my gut says that unless you have a personal relationship with the organist, there’s no obligation. If you feel like you’d like to do something to thank this person, you could always send them a thank you note and bottle of wine.
Post # 4
I am a wedding soloist and my sister is a pastor. While you should extend an invitation to the officiant, the soloist, organist, and any other church organizer (some churches have specific wedding organizers) do not need to be invited.
Post # 5
I actually have a few ceremony musicians, including organists, in my family and they agree with the bees above – you do not need to invite the organist. In fact, unless you consider your organist a friend, he/she might feel awkward about receiving an invitation to a stranger’s wedding!
Post # 6
I think it really depends on a few things:
1. If you are paying the musician or not.
2. If you have any sort of relationship with them
If the musician is paid & doing you a service, I don’t feel like they need to be invited to the reception.
If it is a church organist or member who you know, regardless of how close you are, I would definitely invite them to the reception.
If the person is a stranger, I would maybe offer them a small gift thanking them for their help during the cermony.
Post # 7
I agree with the others: If you know the organist, invite them. But if you’re just paying them to play your wedding and you’ve got no other connetion, there’s no need to invite them or get any other gift. Your payment for service rendered is all that is necessary.