(Closed) Invite the Pastor to the Reception?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should we invite the pastor who is marrying us to the reception?
    Yes, absolutely : (8 votes)
    50 %
    Totally not necessary : (2 votes)
    13 %
    Only if you know him well : (4 votes)
    25 %
    Only if you have space : (2 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @red_pepper_gal:  If you don’t know him well, he will most likely appreciate the gesture and decline.

    Post # 4
    1962 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    In my area most people invite the paster/reverend/priest to dinner. I don’t think it’s necessarily expected though. If you end up having enough space to invite him that would be the more polite thing to do. Like PP said he may consider it a gracious offer and decline. If you don’t want to try and move people around to make space I would just make an extra nice donation to the church (if you are not doing so already anyway). 

    Post # 5
    1358 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I don’t think this is typical, at least not in my area, especially if your pastor or church is collecting a fee. If they are doing it gratis because you are a member of the church, a donation or an invitation to dinner might be a nice gesture, though.

    My fiance and I are inviting our officiant to dinner, but that’s because he’s a friend being ordained for the specific purpose of marrying us! 

    Post # 6
    1668 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would definetly invite him to the reception. As PP said, he will likely decline, but at least the invitation is out there for him.

    Post # 7
    9955 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    In my part of Canada (Ontario)… it is definitely what one does if it is your regular or family church / place of worship

    Would be considered bad Etiquette here not to (and normally an Invite is extended to their Spouce as well)

    (No need to invite an Officiant though when doing an Elopement or Destination Wedding)

    In my experience, either the Officiant will graciously decline (they get a lot of such invites)… or if they do come, they’ll excuse themselves shortly after the Dinner portion is over… they tend to not want to be around for the more “familial” (double-meaning intended) events.


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