Post # 1
That’s it. That’s all the e-mail contained…
Dear Fiance’s Name,
Invite these people.
Long list, beyond the very long one she provide us months ago enclosed.
Am I the only one who has received this? And we’re paying for every penny of the wedding… :T
Think: Happy thoughts, Happy thoughts.
Post # 3
Wow. That’s pretty forward (and rude, IMHO) of her to just email you like that and tell you to invite people to the wedding that you and your Fiance are paying for. How does your Fiance feel about it? Maybe you should talk to her about it? Since you’re paying, you have a say on who gets invited. I’m sorry for that added stress on you! I hope you’re able to work it out!
Post # 4
That would SO not fly with me. The reply might go something like:
We are willing to invite these people:
Short list of people we’ve actually met or would like to meet.
We’re paying for our wedding ourselves, so something like this just wouldn’t fly.
Post # 5
Yikes. Do you know most of them? I’d call her up and let her know (even tho I"m sure she’s aware) you’re on a budget and she has to trim her list. Or that you just really want to keep your list to people you’re both close to. Don’t cave on it especially if you’re paying — it’ll just make you miserable. I hope you get it worked out!
Post # 6
Stay out of it if possible! Tell your fiance to deal with it. And make sure you and him are 100% on the same page!
UGH, I’m sorry that’s terrible!
Post # 7
I agree with the others- take her list as suggestions, trim it to those you know, and if she gets mad, tell her that YOU’RE paying and can’t afford to invite everyone!
Post # 8
Thank you everyone!
Yup…pretty much I have no idea who these people are. You’re right though, I think I need to let my fiance handle it and just support him. Thanks for keeping me strong hive!!!
Post # 9
Let him write back and say "This won’t do. Please call me to discuss." 😛