Post # 1
FI has a question for the hive. We are planning a smaller wedding but have a lot of friends hence the B-list. He wants to know if it is acceptable to invite some of the B-list guys to his bachelor party knowing that we may not be able to invite them to the wedding?
Post # 3
Well, I think it depends on how small your wedding is. Ours is immediately family only, so I think FI might do a small bachelor party with friends who won’t be invited–since NO friends will be invited, I think it’s not offensive (I hope!). But if you’re inviting, say, 10 friends to the wedding, and wanting to invite 10 more to the bachelor party, I could see how people might be offended, especially since people typically spend $$ for the groom at that event.
Post # 4
No, it’s not acceptable. You can’t invite people to pre-wedding events if they aren’t invited to the wedding. Please don’t do it, it’s very rude.
Post # 5
I voted No. Any one who attends these parties usually throws down $$ for the groom. Having to spend money on the groom and not be invited to the wedding would be considered rude.
Post # 6
No. Please only invite people to the pre-wedding festivities who are also invited to the wedding.
Post # 7
Problem solved. Shifted ppl around and got the guys on the invite list. Thanks for your super polite answers.