(Closed) Invite to ceremony and not reception?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
Member
3688 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

When you invite someone only to the ceremony, you’re telling them that they’re good enough to watch you get married, but not good enough for you to feed them and celebrate with them. If these girls bring it up with you again, I would tell them that unfortunately you’re keeping the wedding to family only and that your venue is very small.

 

Post # 4
Member
3424 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@cmbr:  Agree with what she said^^!

Post # 5
Member
3424 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@cmbr:  Sorry meant for OP I’m trigger happy:)

Post # 8
Member
738 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@jandj2014:  I’ve had to tell quite a few different people that I’m not going to be able to invite them after it was implied that they were invited when I first got engaged over a year ago. When they asked I just explained that we are keeping the wedding very small (50 max and that’s basically only family) for personal reasons. A couple pushed and I explained that our budget is very tight. It sucks and I wish I could invite everyone, but it’s just not feasible. However, we are opening up our home after the ceremony and reception for anyone who wants to stop by.

Post # 9
Member
516 posts
Busy bee

I think it’s so rude for people to ask/hint/push for wedding invitations.  It puts hosts/hostesses in awkward positions.

Thus, I think it’s perfectly fair to simply tell these people that you regret being unable to invite them since you and your Fiance have decided to have a very small wedding with close family.  They asked for it.

I do not think it’s okay to invite people to one portion of the wedding and not the other.  Ditto all reasons listed by PPs.

 

Post # 10
Member
1984 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t think it’s a problem to invite people only to the ceremony. To be quite honest, I would like more people at the actual ceremony than at the reception. While the reception is the party, I do only want people I’m very close with there. I would feel more comfortable that way. But, my fiance didn’t want a closed reception and that’s something I was willing to compromise on.

Post # 11
Member
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - The Millennium Center

Honestly, when they asked if they were invited, they were probably not referring to the actual ceremony, but the reception. I wouldn’t invite them, and if they ask explain you had to keep your budget low. 

 

The topic ‘Invite to ceremony and not reception?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors