Post # 1
so my family is quite large and we are already having guest list issues. there’s a group of 10 old school friends i do a Christmas potluck with every year but most of them are married now. besides a couple of them, i only see the rest of them at someone elses wedding or shower if it’s nott he potluck. we have grown apart and we dont talk from day to day. only at someone else’s event. of these girls i only know a handful of their spouses so i’m looking at 20 people and most of them i don’t really talk to and I don’t know their men. i really only want to invite 4-5 of them and their spouses but am i obligated to invite the rest just because of the potluck we do and the fact i was invited to their weddings??
side note: two of the girls didn’t invite me to their weddings, I didn’t go to another girls wedding, and one of them lives in Florida and I’m in Canada.
Post # 3
As long as you see the 4 or 5 you want to invite outside of the Christmas potluck (i.e. they are closer friends) then there is no worry.
Just because you were invited to someone’s wedding doesn’t mean you have to invite them to yours.
Post # 4
I see no reason to invite someone to yours for no other reason than they invited you.
Though Fiance feels differently about this! His take is that he gave a nice gift and he wants one back. LOL
Post # 5
This has been a struggle for us but I’ve finally concluded that NO, just because we went to theirs does not mean we have to invite them to ours! Just invite the people you feel close to, you see more than once a year, and you think would make your day more special. 🙂
Post # 6
I invited those who invited me to their weddings. Right now, we have one friend engaged who’ve I’ve known for years. We invited him to our wedding a couple of years ago. Part of me isn’t sure that we’ll get the same invite. I’m hoping we do because I’m so happy for him and his fiance.