(Closed) Invite to the officiant?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee

We sent an invite to our officiant and her husband.  I think it’s a nice gesture.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My officiant is actually provided as part of our wedding package (he seems like an awesome guy). He has a website where he answers a lot of frequently asked questions — one of them being whether he expects an invitation or not. He tells his clients that, though he is extremely flattered at the thought, do not feel obligated to extend an invitation. Often he and his wife are unable to attend the reception due to other obligations so he may have to decline anyay. I’m not sure if this approach is standard at all but it was QUITE helpful to us!

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Hey JoesWifey! I would have to say ‘yes’ you do have to invite the officiant. We have 2 (the joys of a cross-cultural wedding) priests, and we will be inviting both of them to the reception. We dont’ know them really at all, but it’s just the right thing to do. Also, we feel that if this is someone who we are asking to perform the most important occasion of our lives together…then we should want to have dinner with them too! The chances are that they will say no, but it’s still important to make the gesture. Plus, the last thing I want is a ticked off priest who didn’t get an invite, so therefore decides to do a 45 minute sermon to punish us! j/k…sort of 😉

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’d invite them the same way you’re inviting everyone else, which is normally with a paper invitation.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m a wedding officiant (as well as a bride!), and while I do appreciate when my couples extend an invitation to me, I don’t often stay for the reception.  I do occasionally receive the invitations (and I get so excited when I do, because I love wedding invites!), but usually the invite is verbal (at our meeting), or via email. 

If you are going to extend an invitation to your officiant, it is nice to also extend it to her partner/husband as well.  Most of the officiants I know do not stay for the reception (or the rehearsal dinner, if we run the rehearsals), but it is absolutely a recognized and nice gesture.

The few times I have stayed for the receptions (other than friend’s weddings) – once, my fiance was acting as the photographer, so I stayed as a favor to him – and once was a very casual backyard wedding, where we stayed to eat, and left soon after that (again, he was acting as the photographer there as well).

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Yes, I think it is a nice way to ‘formalize’ everything. We sent all of our vendors, and officant invites.

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