(Closed) Invite Wording

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
1917 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I don’t think the wedding invitation is just about who is paying for what part of the wedding.  All of you are inviting your friends and family to be part of your special day.  I would just list all of the names on the invite.

Personally my mother would be very offended to not be listed on the invite and so would my in laws.

Post # 4
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

It’s perfectly acceptable to put something like: Jane Doe and John Smith together with their families….

I would just let your mom know before hand so she doesn’t get hurt when she sees the invitation. Hopefully she understands. In all honesty it would be odd if ONLY your mom’s name was on the invitation.

Post # 5
2786 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I was torn on this one too, so I just flat out asked my parents, since they are paying for some things (my dress, the cake, the honeymoon), but not the entire thing, and FI’s parents are split up and each paying for something separately….I just thought it might get to be too much and I didn’t want to offend anyone by having some and not others. Everyone said they didn’t care, since we are paying for the bulk.

To avoid any kind of issues we just said “The pleasure of your company is requested at the marriage uniting sara_tiara and mr sara_tiara”

Post # 7
11356 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Generally, the person or people hosting the wedding are the ones whose names appear on the invitation, and often couples will also include the groom’s parents (i.e. son of Mr. and Mrs. John Doe…) even if they are not helping to pay. 
In your case, if your mother is not the only host of the wedding (i.e., if you and your Fiance are paying as well), perhaps you could use the “Together with their parents …” language, omitting all specific names.  This is what my DSD and her Fiance plan to do.

Post # 8
7902 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

You do not include his parents on the invitation because they are paying for the rehearsal. They get that credit by sending out invitations to the rehearsal dinner. You can, however, put them out of respect, but they go under the groom’s name, not at the top.

As for you parents, traditionally, your situation means your mother goes on the invitation. Have you talked to her about this? My mother was adament that she be on the invitation for the wedding she paid for over 1/2 of.  My dad contributed some, so he went on too, though my mom was unhappy about that.

If you decide to put the groom’s parents on the invitation at all, I think out of respect you should include your father somewhere. My suggestions are below.

1. Only your mother:

Ms. First Last

requests the pleasure of your company

at the marraige of her daughter

Your First Middle


His First Middle Last

blah, blah, blah


2. All parents (will look like dad contributed to wedding)

Ms. First Last

Mr. First Last [note, no “and” and on separate lines since I assume they are not married]

request the pleasure of your company

at the marriage of their daughter

Your First Middle


His First Middle (maybe Last),

son of Mr. and Mrs. FoG’s First Last

blah, blah, blah


3. All parents (but no one gets direct credit for hosting

Your First Middle,

daughter of Ms. First Last Mr. First Last [again, no “and” even if it looks weird],


His First Middle,

son of Mr. and Mrs. FoG’s First Last,

request the pleasure of your company

at their wedding

blah blah blah

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