(Closed) Invite Wording: Should I just ask?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would just ask to be certain.  Send her a FB message.

Post # 5
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

@mrsbruff2b: I don’t think it would be rude at all.  The nice thing about FB messages is you can just shoot one off after not having talked to the person for awhile – that’s what FB is for in my opinion.  Just a short and sweet little message like, “Hi Julie, I hope you guys are doing well!  [Maybe comment on something interesting or fun you saw on her FB page.]  We’re getting ready to send out our wedding invites, and I have a quick question for you.  I noticed you’re still using your maiden name on your FB profile, so I just wanted to ask if that’s the name you’re going by so I can make sure to address your invite correctly.”

I have a couple of old friends I have to check with regarding this issue, as well, and this is what I plan on doing.

Post # 6
3267 posts
Sugar bee

@mrsbruff2b: I think the only way to know is to ask.  It is not polite to call someone a name other then what they prefer. I also don’t think you should guess, presume or rely on facebook. 

 In regards to Mr. A Smith & Mrs. B Jones.  This would only be correct if Mrs. B Jones had previously been married to a Mr. Jones, and she had kept his name after the end of their marriage.  Mrs refers to someone who has taken the husbands name.  If someone retains their maiden name they do not become a Mrs, but remain a Ms.


Post # 7
3775 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

Ask, why not?

Post # 8
11390 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would just ask to be 100% for sure & so you don’t offend her.

Post # 9
2584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m assuming you talk to this person off FB if she’s invited to your wedding? So I don’t think it would be awkward to talk to her on FB. I agree with PPs, I’m sure she’ll be fine with you asking and will probably even appreciate it.

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