(Closed) invite wording to exclude kids from DW ceremony?

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
580 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Due to venue restrictions we are unable to accomodate children under age xx at the recption/ceremory etc and have provided a childcare service at ___ for you to use.

Sorry, I’m not good at this etiquette stuff, but something along these lines?

Post # 5
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

For my Destination Wedding: I said that the resort was all inclusive adult only resort, so leave the kiddies at home and get ready to party

Post # 6
501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Mine is also all-inclusive adult only. We let everyone know with plenty of notice to arrange child care.

We knew we didn’t want kids at the wedding, so we chose an adults only resort.

Post # 7
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We called and emailed our guests and offered babysitting services. They got the hint:)

Post # 8
389 posts
Helper bee

Please note that this is an adult-only celebration.  If you need a babysitting service, we could make some recommendations.

Post # 9
8435 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Honeslty I think it is a bit rude to ask people to spend the time and money to travel to your Destination Wedding and say you can bring you kids along but they can’t come to the wedding/reception. After all it is not like it is a family vacation- they have travelled for your wedding.

I certainly wouldn’t leave my child with a stranger in a foreign place!

Post # 10
4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

“No Kids, Bitches!”    <— Probably something you SHOULDN’T write. 


I’m a fan of @flownmuse‘s response

Post # 12
16 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

On my “information” card, I wrote:


“The ceremony and reception will be aduts only.”


Simple as that. Didn’t hear a peep about it!

Post # 13
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

@misskrayon:  Yep that should do the trick! Maybe also mention that there is babysitting service available

Post # 14
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We don’t plan to write anything on the invitation itself, but there is a page about it on our website (“due to space constraints…”), where we also link to babysitter services and children’s activities on the island. We’ve also communicated this info to all guests with children via phone or email. 

Post # 15
1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would include a blurb about the sitting service being available, but I would have one-off conversations wih the guests who have kids. I think it’s rude to write who can’t come on an invitation.

Post # 16
1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree.  I would address the invitation to the adults.  Then on either the RSVP card or the information insert, I would state the childcare arrangements.

We had a BBQ the day before, and a brunch the day after.  The RSVP card was for all three events.  So, we wrote “Children are welcome at the barbecue and brunch.  Please indicate how many guests will attend each event.”  That made it pretty clear that kids were NOT invited to the ceremony & reception without explicitly stating it.

In your case, I would write something like, “Childcare will be provided in the Blah Blah Room on the second floor of the hotel lobby,” or whatever your logistics are.

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