Post # 1
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Worker bee
RE: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/please-help-me-with-invitation-wording-poll#axzz2tajhp6iT
How do you feel about this line in terms of your own wedding invitations and reading it on other peoples invites? Does it scream “were 19 and being married off by our parents!” or a nice traditional wording that includes the parents? Would you assume the whole thing is being payed for or not necessarily? How do you feel about the word “children”?
I’m just really stuck on the way we are going to word things while making everybody happy. This seems like the best option, to have it worded as hosted by the parents with their names, but I’m worried it sounds too childish.
Post # 3
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847 posts
Busy bee
I don’t mind it — and we’ll probably be using it. We’re contributing, my Mom’s contributing, and I’m not in the business of offending my future inlaws so they’ll be included on the invitation as well.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I prefer “invite you to the marriage of their daughter, _____, and son, ________.”
I do think the word “children” puts “childish” on the table. But I’m not sure I’d actually think that if I received an invitation with that wording; it might be just that I’m focusing on it here.
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
Seems like every invitation I’ve ever gotten? I’d say it’s definitely the norm that I’ve seen. Our invites say at the marriage of their daughter… to … son of..
I mean they are their children I don’t see how that’s childish it’s just what they are.
Post # 6
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509 posts
Busy bee
I don’t think it’s weird to say that the parents are inviting the guests, I just assume that means they are the hosts and therefore are paying for the wedding. We will probably use similar wording to recognize the fact that my parents have been incredibly generous and are paying for almost the entire wedding. I would feel kind of bad to take the credit as hostess in that case!
That specific wording seems kinda weird to me though – “invite you to the marriage of their children” made me do a double take at first and make me think it was siblings getting married 😛
Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
I agree that using the word “children” may lend itself to thinking “childish” along with it. We said “Together with our families” or something like that to include everyone, but I think @prahajess: ‘s suggestion to use the words “son” and “daughter” is more appropriate than using “children”
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
@prahajess: For some reason using the words “marriage of their children” sounds odd to me. It instinctively sounds like siblings are marrying to me. My parents are paying for the wedding and we did “Mr and Mrs. X invite you to the marriage of their daughter Bride to Groom”.
If it sounds immature that we aren’t paying for it…welll haha I don’t know what to say to that. My parents are hosting so they are named.
Post # 9
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Honey bee
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@peaseblossom: I prefer Mr. and Mrs. Brides Parents together with Mr. and Mrs. Grooms Parents invite you to celebrate/attend/whatever the wedding/marriage/union/whatever of Bride and Groom.
You can easily avoid calling yourself a child. It will be obvious that you’re their children by the shared names and the fact that everyone your’e inviting knows who you are!
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
@peaseblossom: In french it would definitely sound very juvenile to say ”children”. I would rather indicate, if both sets of parents were hosting, ”daughter” and ”son”.
Post # 11
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930 posts
Busy bee
Ours listed our parents, because they graciously offered to pay for it, so we were obligated to list them. However, we did not refer to us as children, we are in our upper 20s! Again, they wanted to pay for the wedding, so leaving them off was not an option we would consider.
Post # 12
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718 posts
Busy bee
We used “Together with their families”. I wouldn’t want to be called a child at 31…even though I still am their child.
Post # 13
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12068 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
@peaseblossom: I would assume that your parents are paying for the wedding.
My dad & step mom and FH’s parents are contributing about 20% of the budget (my mother is not contributing). We weren’t going to include mention of parents at all but that felt a little weird so we opted for ‘Together with their parents….’
Post # 14
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1935 posts
Buzzing bee
We did “Together with their parents, my name and FI’s name invite you….”
Post # 15
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9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
All it makes me think is that mom and dad paid for the wedding. In some families it’s traditional for the parents to foot the bill so I don’t really judge the couple based on it.
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
Other – parents are hosting, nbd.
