(Closed) "invite you to the marriage of their children"

posted 6 years ago in Paper
  • poll: It makes me think:
    Aw, thats nice that they included their parents. : (27 votes)
    22 %
    Indifferent, just the traditional wording. : (49 votes)
    39 %
    It sounds immature, like they are young or not contributing. : (46 votes)
    37 %
    Other : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 17
    Member
    568 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    i chose to avoid using the word “children”. I put

    “Mr. and Mrs. Bride’s Parents and

    Mr. and Mrs. Groom’s parents

    request the honor of your presence at the marriage of

    Bride

    to

    Groom”

    Post # 18
    Member
    2490 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    I don’t like the use of the word “children”, I know it’s traditional but it sounds old fashioned and juvenille to me. I think using Daughter and Son sounds so much better.

    Post # 19
    Member
    799 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Usually when I see anything like that on an invitation I assume the parents are paying for a chunk of the wedding. Since Fiance and I are paying we aren’t mentioning our parents on the invite. 

    Post # 20
    Member
    455 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    @peaseblossom:  I’ve never read that invitation wording and thought ‘children’.  If you’re invited to the wedding you should at least know the bride or the groom and their life circumstances.   You shouldn’t have to infer that from the wording of an invite.  

    We’re using that language because we want to honor our parents and how important they are to us.  Just because we’re successful adults doesn’t make us any less their children. 

    Post # 21
    Member
    633 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I used exactly that wording. I am proud to be my parents child, and I think it brings a lovely familial tone to the first thing people see of your wedding. At 29, I don’t have any feelings about being judged for marrying young. 

    Post # 22
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    3075 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

    I was looking at my SILs wedding invites & was surprised that they didn’t include that wording ( they are maybe mid twenties?) & my aunt and uncle (late 30s) did a variation. For the record they are wealthy so I know my grandparents didn’t contribute much if at all, but here it’s traditional. 

    Post # 23
    Member
    1002 posts
    Bumble bee

    I don’t like that wording, and I think that the “children” part absolutely feels juvenile.  I don’t actually personally care for wording that includes the parents in general.  But part of that is because this is not a situation where my parents, or my partner’s parents, are inviting anyone to witness/celebrate/join in on the festivities – WE are the ones inviting our guests.  We are adults, independent of our parents.  Our parents are not going to be contributing to the costs of the event.  If they offer to do so (his parents already have – we refused) we will be turning the offer down, because, at least on his side of the family there are Big Strings attached to such an offer.  Regardless of who is paying, though, it is not anyone else’s commitment that is being celebrated, and it is not anyone but us that will be doing the inviting.  We don’t feel that anyone belongs on the invitation but us.

    Post # 24
    Member
    4036 posts
    Honey bee

    We did:

    Mother and Father’s names

    invite you to share in the joy

    of the marriage of their daughter

    My 1st and middle names

     

    FH didn’t want son of, after his name. (My parents committed to host – 100% )

    Post # 26
    Member
    1643 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    @peaseblossom:  maybe I’m not the right person to comment, because I dont buy into much of the etiquette. But I don’t read anything into the wording, I’m just happy to be invited 😉

    Post # 29
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    1990 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @peaseblossom:  both sets of parents contributed but we also paid the majority so we did “Mr. & Mrs. ((bride’s parents)) and Mr. & Mrs. ((groom’s parents)) invite you celebrate the blessed union of their children ((Bride’s name)) & ((Groom’s name))”

    I found mentioning the parents is the best way to trigger the memory of the people who they wanted to invite but that might not know Darling Husband or I too well by our formal names.

    That’s a super traditional way to do it – its up to you what you’d like to do.

    I don’t think saying “children” makes you “childish” – I’m always going to be my parent’s offspring so I don’t see the big deal about the word “children” – FWIW, we were 25 when we got married.

    Post # 30
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    3256 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    It does not sound immature.  If my mom is talking about my sisters, and I, (33, 32, 30), she would still say “my children,” or “my kids.”  What else is she supposed to say?  “My adults?”

    Post # 31
    Member
    830 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    @peaseblossom:  yeah, no way to the ‘children’ and personally for us, not even son and daughter. We chose to have ‘together with their families’. Nothing to do with who’s hosting/paying but to us, just because it felt more appropriate for our ages (me 39, Fiance 42).

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