(Closed) "invite you to the marriage of their children"

posted 6 years ago in Paper
  • poll: It makes me think:
    Aw, thats nice that they included their parents. : (27 votes)
    22 %
    Indifferent, just the traditional wording. : (49 votes)
    39 %
    It sounds immature, like they are young or not contributing. : (46 votes)
    37 %
    Other : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 32
    435 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I’d only do it that way if my parents were paying for the wedding entirely. Otherwise, my parents aren’t inviting anybody, I am.

    Post # 33
    1328 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Almost every wedding I’ve been invited to has been worded like that, so I don’t think anything of it.  Its just a standard wording.

    I don’t see children and think it’s childish when we’re just talking in terms of family relations.  You don’t stop being someone’s child just because you’re older.  It just happens that in the english language the word child can be used both to describe age and/or relationship.

    Post # 34
    3669 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @peaseblossom:  I don’t think it sounds terrible and would just assume the parents were hosting. However it is better to not be referred to as a child on your wedding invite. 

    Post # 35
    7199 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @peaseblossom:  I don’t think that in my adult life I’ve been invited to any weddings that were paid for entirely by the parents, so I’ve never seen that wording and to me it seems childish. I assume that the parents are the only ones paying for the wedding. Take that with a grain of salt though- I’m sure people who have more traditional values/come from money are perfectly used to it. I come from a world of dollar dances and guests staying to clean up after the party. 

    Post # 36
    9490 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I prefer “invite you to the marriage of their daughter, _____, and son, ________.”


    The phrase about the “marriage of their children” makes me think that they were siblings…

    My parents paid for the majority of  our wedding so I had no issue with the traditional wording, but I think it’s nice to at least put “together with their families” or something similar even if the parents weren’t able to contribute much.

    Post # 37
    2480 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    “Children” don’t get married do they? 

    I realise that when you are a parent, your children will always be that. Your children. And I speak from experience since my sons are 33 and 31. However, I would never dream of referring to them as children in this context and even if I’d been paying for my son’s wedding last year I would not have wanted the word “children” to appear on an invitation. 

    There are far more acceptable terms of reference which include both the parents and the bride and groom.

    Post # 39
    4823 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @peaseblossom:   I think you have navigated the minefield beautifully!  Your wording sounds perfect to me, and the reasoning behind it is touching.  🙂  

    Post # 40
    370 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @peaseblossom:  you can also say “with their families…you are invited to the wedding of xyz and abc”


    if you google different ways to word invitations you will find several ideas.

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