invite your ex?

posted 3 years ago in Guests
  • poll: Would you invite your ex to your wedding?
    Yes : (4 votes)
    8 %
    No : (38 votes)
    79 %
    If we were still friends : (6 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 2
    790 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’m not friends with any of my exes, so it wasn’t a problem for me. Even if I was still in occasional contact with them, I have no idea why they’d want to come. My husband’s friend asked if he could bring my husband’s ex-girlfriend as a date (my husband and this girl broke up 6.5 years ago – less than a year before we got together). We told him we didn’t have the numbers for it, but honestly, we just didn’t want her there.

    Post # 3
    8646 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I have actually gone to several weddings that featured exes in attendance. All were “friends” with the ex and everyone involved supposedly were fine with the invitations.  Every one was a disaster, at least in that department!   I’m talking sobbing bride, sobbing ex GF, a groom who spent the night dodging the photographer in a very  obvious way any time any time the photographer wanted to take a photo of him talking to the ex, who tried to monopolize the attention of the groom all night.  

    I’m sure there are people who think this would never happen to them.  So did these people.  


    Post # 4
    1437 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    imhisoneandonly:  I didn’t invite my Ex FI to my wedding specifically, but I did invite his parents/family (it was a casual wedding wo he was included) and assumed he would not come, but wouldn’t have minded if he had. We ended on fine terms and though we’re not close anymore we were close before we were dating. Other exes that I don’t have fond feelings for did not get invited. 

    Post # 5
    1061 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - Loft

    imhisoneandonly:  I would invite my ex but I would not allow FI to invite his ex’s so for that double standard alone…. no ex’s invited

    Post # 6
    2460 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Nope! Makes me think of that How I Met Your Mother episode. It ended badly.

    Post # 7
    414 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Sunset Hills Country Club


    imhisoneandonly:  I never thought of inviting my ex, but I did his invite his mom…

    Post # 9
    870 posts
    Busy bee

    I’m friends with the vast majority of my exs and will be inviting several of them to the wedding. My FI is inviting several past flings of his as well. In fact, I think between my FI and I, we’ve slept with approximately half of the wedding party XD 

    Post # 10
    31 posts

    No no no that’s just drama waiting to happen

    Post # 11
    2974 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    my husband is still good friends with one his exes. actually, it was more of a friends with benefits type of situation. but anyway, she’s a sweet girl and i really like her. we went to her wedding and we invited her and her husband to ours, but they couldn’t make it.

    there’s another ex of my husband’s that i do not care for and would not have invited. it sort of bothers me that he’s kept in touch with her, but i don’t say anything.

    i don’t really keep in touch with any guys from my past.

    Post # 12
    2126 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I will be inviting one of my ex’s and his girlfriend to my wedding. He’s still a friend, and there is an entire group of us from high school that are still friends. My FI even suggested having him as an usher at the wedding, but I said that I don’t think his gf would appreciate it. I think it depends on the situation, he may not even come, but I am inviting everyone else from that group so I feel like I can’t not invite him, and we are still friends somit won’t be awkward.

    Post # 13
    7181 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    My ex husband and I are friendly and civil, but neither of us invited the other to our weddings.seemed like unnecessary drama to me.

    Post # 15
    230 posts
    Helper bee

    We are only inviting our parents and children to our wedding so that’s a no brainer but if we were to have a huge wedding id have to say a definite no as well. I know for a fact that my SO’s youngest sons mother would try to invite herself but I cannot stand her so she would not be invited at all. I don’t keep in contact with any of my exes and my sons father doesn’t keep in contact with me either but he wouldn’t get invited regardless.

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