(Closed) Invited as engaged, RSVPing as married?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Yes, write Mr. and Mrs. So-and-So because that will be the name she uses for the escort or placecards.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

@ZChick17:  I literally am going through the same thing! I know that they might be huffy if we reply as a married couple, because they planned their wedding the week after ours and have been very competitive about things (yes, our engagement and date setting happened well before theirs, so we’re not jerks). I decided to reply as Mr. and Mrs. so and so as that is what will be on the place card, and we will be married then.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@ZChick17:  It’s not pretentious to want to be called by the title you worked hard for (and probably paid for.)  As an attorney I find it ridiculous that Ph.D’s in English can go by Doctor but I can’t even though my degree is also a doctorate.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

@beachbride1216:  I’d second that – I still wake up in a cold sweat when I think of my thesis and viva! Though perhaps for place names it’s a bit much…

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@ZChick17:  Meh, I only address people as doctor in a professional setting or if they insist on it. I know people worked hard for their degrees but police officers work hard and risk their lives every day and don’t ask to be called “Officer so-and-so” outside of work. So, that’s kind of my view on the whole titles thing, though I don’t get offended if people want to be called doctor, I just do it.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My FH RSVPed for us using “Mr. & Mrs. OurNameHere”… I thought that it was so sweet that he thought about that!!!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

@ZChick17:  hah definitely sounds like a similar situation to mine! I actually look forward to RSVP’ing with the Mr. and Mrs. 🙂

To answer your other question, yes it’s quite important to add Dr. instead of Mr. or Mrs. in those situations. 

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