(Closed) Invited to 2 showers for the same person, small & expensive registry.

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 31
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Honey bee

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sweatergal007 :  http://www.penzeys.com

They are a spice house based out of the Milwaukee/Chicago area, I believe.  They have delicious, fresh spices and they have a lot of nice blends

http://www.thespicehouse.com is also based in that same area and a bit cheaper.  They are run by different members of the Penzey’s family.  I tend to default to Penzey’s because they have a couple of stores in my area, whereas Spice House doesn’t, but they are both good.  Penzey’s has a number of gift sets, including ones specifically geared as wedding gifts or I’ll buy the baking set or grilling spice set depending on their cooking interests. 

I highly recommend them if you get a chance.  Their Vietnamese cinnamon, smoked paprika, and toasted onion and toasted garlic granules are out of this world.  I also put their Greek seasoning in practically everything.

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee

Uggh yeah.. that’s her way to allow a bunch of guests to buy more affordable things that she will then turn around and exchange for one of the more expensive items she ACTUALLY wants. This is all so gift-grabby and odd.

That wedding sounds… interesting. 

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

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italianbride0508 :  Ugh! that sounds incredibly gift grabby and rude.

What are you going to do?

I would most definitely decline after reading your first post. After seeing your second, I wouldn’t even want to bring a gift to the wedding (which probably breaks an etiquette rule???)

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

I always want to see wedding recaps to see how things turn out when people get all gift grabby or only register for super high end items.

Post # 37
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Bumble Beekeeper

You’re not even that close to them. If you weren’t even planning on attending the wedding, I wouldn’t bother with humoring the showers and registries. 

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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italianbride0508 :  Weird that you are even invited in the first place since you never met.. so def gift grabby.

Showers are supposed to be for the women in your life.. unless they are some huge overpaid affair.

I would never invite some girl I never met to my shower

Just decline both and call it a day

Post # 39
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Bumble bee

Just ine reason why i find showers odd. Its like buy me gifts today and then for the wedding in want more gifts (or preferably cash!).

I’d decline and send a card.

Post # 40
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Honey Beekeeper

It’s a big faux pas to invite the same people to multiple showers. You need not attend both or either one, especially since they are out of town. If for some reason you want to go anyway, I’d just further split up the amount you’d normally spend between a shower and a wedding. There is never any obligation whatsoever to buy off of a registry. 

A pot luck wedding is inappropriate unless a particular group of people have volunteered to co-host. Otherwise, host what you can afford, even if that’s just cake and punch.

If someone hits you up for a dish and you feel obliged to attend or simply want to make an appearance for the sake of family, just say you are coming from out of town and it won’t be convenient or possible. 

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