(Closed) Invited to 2 Showers

posted 4 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
221 posts
Helper bee

subola:  I would probably get 2 smaller gifts. You’re already presumably spending quite a bit to be in the wedding. I wouldnt get 2 “regilar” shower gifts on top of that. 

Post # 3
2945 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


subola:  I invited my BMs to my second shower (and their SOs, as this was a couples shower) because I wanted both sets of people to meet those who were most important to me.  I did not in any respect expect a gift at the second shower from anyone who was at the first. 

Post # 6
221 posts
Helper bee

subola:  oh yeah, no way I would spend that! Who has the lowest item on the registry that expensive?! Is that normal? Maybe you can just get her a nice picture frame or something. 

Post # 8
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

subola:  I would not bring a gift to the 2nd shower, I’m sure she’s not expecting you to gift at both.

Post # 9
2055 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I had 2 showers (one thrown by an aunt on my side of the fam, and one of my FI’s side).  I asked to have my BM’s invited to both showers so they wouldn’t feel left out, but told them to not bring a gift to the 2nd shower.  Two BM’s came to the both showers, and they both got me gifts at the 2nd shower (both were small, under $20).  So if you can afford it, I’d bring something small.  Just saw that not small gifts are left on the registry – I’d get a gift card then, or an extra place setting or glasses or something she registered for, you can always have extra.

Post # 10
1669 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Don’t give a gift at the second shower if her cheapest option is 60 – just give a nice gift at the first shower and attend the second one if you feel like it. Or if you really feel weird going without a gift, some nice dish towels or something are never a miss.

Post # 12
135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If you feel awkward not taking a gift to the second, what about a bottle of wine? There are a lot of great options out that are budget friendly.

Post # 13
7358 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would not be expecting two gifts if I had a guest who came to two showers for me, and I’m sure your friend’s expectations will be similar, if she is a reasonable person. If she gets annoyed with you for not giving two gifts then she should not have put you on both guest lists.

Post # 14
2698 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015


I’m having 2 showers because my family and my Fiance family are 4 hours apart. I have a couple BMs coming to both, I DO NOT expect gifts from them. I even told the bridal party not to get us anything. They’re already spending so much on attire and travel expenses to get everywhere. We do not expect gifts on top, or if they feel they have to something very small.

I think you would be fine just bringing a card and well wishes.

Post # 15
602 posts
Busy bee

subola:  I think it’s sort of rude she is having two showers and did not register for any items under $60! I don’t know what your budget is for her shower gift but I would split it and get her two gift cards to where she is registered, one for each shower. 

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