(Closed) Invited to Attend Elopement But They Seem Like They're Being Shady

posted 5 years ago in Elopement
Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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tootietoo2:  what on earth? She can’t even afford the fee for the marriage license (how much can it be?? 100ish tops??) until her next paycheck, and yet she’s planning this vegas elopement? Have they purchased flights or ANYthing yet?? They didn’t have the money “at the moment” in Feb and now still don’t — It sounds like they can in no way afford this wedding, and I wouldn’t be shocked if they 100% end up not even making it within the vegas city limits. If they did, how are they going to pay for any of the stuff she keeps mentioning at all? None of this makes any sense!

You are very wise to not put ANYthing on your credit card on her behalf — I would almost guarantee you won’t see any of it back. And if you were to pay for those rooms, I would imagine you’d end up paying for them in full as well. I can’t believe she had the gall to get snippy and threaten to still “go without you.” I would have replied go right ahead with a big ol LOL to that. It’s very clear shes been hoping to swindle you into bankrolling this for her.

You are SUCH a kind person — I don’t think i’d have this much patience left even for my best friend at this point, let alone someone i’ve known 3 years as my good friend’s partner!! I would feel like a complete jackass even putting an ounce of the imposition on you that she is doing…to me this is not a “friend” worth having. So disrespectful. She just can’t afford any of this and needs to be honest with herself and you.

Post # 47
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

A person who lives paycheck to paycheck to the point where she can’t even buy a bouquet of fake flowers has absolutely no business eloping to Vegas. Go to the courthouse and be done. This wedding/trip will never happen unless you end up footing the bill.

Post # 48
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Busy Beekeeper

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tootietoo2:  Any updates.

Also you are are one hell of a friend.

Post # 49
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I wonder if she already got the money from her fiance and spent it on something else.  I could see him saying that he wants to be surprised, but I couldn’t see him expecting her to come up with the money.

Post # 50
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Blushing bee

I think you did the right thing. Please let us know if the wedding happens! 

Post # 51
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Helper bee

I am in total agreement with PP’s. I just want to add this:

“I realize you’re already married & know you don’t want strippers grinding on you & disrespecting your wife.” <– THIS IS A GOOD FRIEND!!!! It irks me when men simply do not have that kind of respect for their friend’s wives!!

Post # 52
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Bumble bee

She really needs to come clean with her Fiance. This is no way to begin a marriage. They should have the quiet, local courthouse wedding/elopement that they can afford. It will be more beautiful, honest, and more elegant than a beyond-their-means Vegas trip.

I’m confused about where he thinks the funds are coming from. I understand that she wanted to plan everything as a surprise, but did they not discuss costs? Does he think she’s paying for the entire thing?

Post # 53
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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tootietoo2:  You have to update us after this weekend. I hope all goes well and you all have a great time! The weather here in Vegas is stormy right now….which rarely happens……

Post # 54
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’m also waiting for update on this one! 

Post # 55
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Helper bee

Update??

Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Inquiring minds want to know…did you make it to Vegas?

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