(Closed) invited to bridal shower not wedding…

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

extremely.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Yeppers. That’s really the only answer. The only time it’s not rude is if work throws you one.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Yes. End of story

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

yep everyone at a shower should be invited to the wedding, because theyre showering you with gifts

however, I didnt invite everyone from my bachelorette party, I have a lot of friends but I wanted more family than friends at the wedding

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

oops hit button too many times

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

sorry double post

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree with mwitter!

Otherwise, that’s plain old abuse (using them for gifts, and not letting them take part in the actual sacred event).

Not fair, not cool, not right!!

 

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Yes, work showers being the only exception.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yes

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My Fiancee and I are having an extermely small wedding due to our venue/ceremony site- only 80 ppl which means family only and a few friends in our bridal parties. I did want to invite some of my friends to the wedding but we just couldnt- I made it clear to them that we wouldnt be able to invite them to the wedding but still wanted them to be involved in the showers/Bachelorette party if they wanted to. I know it goes against proper etiquette but I gave them the option if they’d like to be involved at all. I think it manly depends on the situation. My other girlfriend just had a destination wedding and she only invited 35 of us to the wedding- 80% of the people at her showers were people not invited to the wedding.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I feel like if you invite someone to a shower or bachelorette party but not the wedding, it’s like saying “You’re not good enough to be part of the celebration, now go buy me an expensive gift and some drinks and a lap dance from the Chippendales.”  Definitely not cool.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@tdtram73:

Hey – date twins!!

All PPs are right – it’s rude to invite people to the shower who aren’t invited to the wedding.

That said, at my shower this weekend there will be lots of people who aren’t invited to the wedding. My Future Mother-In-Law and her family are organizing the shower and it’s the same group of women who attend the same church and always attend all the bridal showers. It’s frustrating me to no end and we’ve had lots of fights about it… but that’s the way it is!

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yes, that is rude. 

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