Post # 1
I got too excited during my engagement party preparations and invited way too many friends. Close friends, and nice classmates.
There are two people who I am not close to. We get along great in class, and they came out to my engagement party gift in hand to celebrate with me. But im not close, i doubt i would even call them on the phone to chat. We just are very pleasant aquaintances. Do i need to invite them to my wedding? I don’t want them to be hurt, or to ruin our relationship …but my wedding is expensive!!
Thanks for your feedback!
Post # 3
I would invite them. Seems rude not to invite them after having them celebrate your engagement.
Post # 4
I would invite them too. I’d be pretty peeved if someone invited me to their engagement party but not their wedding. It seems similar to being invited to the bridal shower and not the wedding.
Post # 5
If you’re not close, why in the world would you invite them to your engagement party? Everyone invited to engagement parties and bridal showers must be invited to the wedding. It’s super rude to say, “youre good enough to bring a gift, but not good enough to come to the wedding.”
Post # 6
It sucks but now that you’ve invited them to the engagement part you have to invite them to the wedding. Think about that before you create ou shower invite lists as well!
Post # 7
I think that you should invite them. In my opinion, you can invite people to the wedding but not necessarily to your engagement party/bridal shower depending on how close you are, but you can’t do the opposite by inviting them to the smaller celebration (the engagement party), but not the bigger one (the wedding)
Post # 8
@cmbr: The answer is obvious here! Gifts!!!!
You should invite them to the wedding if you invited them to the shower. It’s pretty poor character to do otherwise.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
You really should invite them to the wedding since you invited them to a wedding-related event. I agree with PPs that you should keep that in mind when it comes to your shower 😉
Post # 10
okay well new quesiton. if someone showed up to the engagement party with a serious bf/gf do i need to invite them? because they already brought their bf/gf to the party
Post # 11
@doubtingdebbieah: You should always invite serious partners to the wedding, even if you don’t know them. Some people may keep it to a living together or fiance/fiancee policy, and some will extend it to all serious relationships. At the very least, give +1s if the partner lives with them or is engaged.
Post # 12
I think it comes down to inviting the same people to the engagement party and to the wedding. If you know these people are in a relationship or any kind, serious or not, write “and guest” on the invitation, and then the person you’re inviting will decide if they want to bring their SO or not
Post # 13
Honestly, I don’t think I would invite them. I don’t think that an engagement party is in the same league with a bridal shower or something.
If you aren’t that close to them, then I don’t know….sometimes I feel the “rules of etiquette” aren’t finite.
Post # 14
@doubtingdebbieah: Always invite serious bf/gfs. You don’t have to invite the casual fling, relationships under a month or so, or give every single person a +1. But if they’re serious, live together, engaged, married, etc. then yes, you do.
Post # 15
If it’s just two, whats the harm in inviting them? If they are not close, as you said, they may not even come. Even if they do, I am sure somewhere else on your guestlist two people will decline. You mentioned that they were classmates- it could damage your relationship with them and others depnding on your program size, etc. As others have said it would come down to “well they invited me of my engagement gift, now I am not good enough for the weddint, etc.”
Post # 16
I’m going to go against what everybody is saying. If they came to the part and didnt bring you a gift… I’m going to say you dont have to invite them if you grew apart from them. I would just explain to them that you hadnt started planning the wedding when you had your engagement party and now you are keeping it only very close friends and family. BUT if you are inviting 100+ people, yeah I would be hurt if I wasnt invited and saw alllll of those other people were.