(Closed) Invited to FSIL hens night ..go or not go?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

If it were me, I wouldn’t go. Honestly, the four hour drive, the fact that you’re not close to her and that the invite came late would seal the deal for me. Have you asked your brother if he’d be upset if you didn’t go?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Hmmmm…. that is tough. I’m kinda lazy, and wouldn’t drive four hours, lol.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think you have to go but maybe its because to me a 4 hour drive is nothing.  Its your brothers future wife shouldn’t you try to get to know her better.  I don’t know, I know I’d feel obligated.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

what is a hens party?  never heard of it.. and IDK.. If I had a Future Sister-In-Law, I would feel obligated to do anything she invited me to. lol  4 hours is a long drive, and I’m like Layla, if it’s over an hour I probably won’t do it.  I don’t have a Future Sister-In-Law, but if I did I would probably try really hard to make it. 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

crane, what does ‘cruisy’ mean? I don’t mean to sound like an ignorant american ๐Ÿ™ but I guess I am. is it a good thing or bad thing?

I’d say you don’t have to go. Maybe when you go up for the wedding (are you going early?) you and she can get your nails done or something like that together, something that would allow you to chat with her more and actually get to know her some ๐Ÿ™‚ instead of just drinking together.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Hmmm, I wonder why it was sent late – do you know what the “night on the town” involves? I think that could be a big deciding factor. Like if it involved strippers, that could be weird if you’re the groom’s sister, so she probably wouldn’t expect you to come. But if its something low key, maybe she does want you to go.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

No, see, I kind of feel like the invite coming late (and apparently no one calling you to get your RSVP?) is kind of the sign that she did it to be nice and doesn’t expect you to come. I think if she’s going to be out drinking and celebrating, she might feel more comfortable to do it with her friends and might feel awkward in front of you since you’re not close, too! I’d let this one go and stay home… and just offer extra help with the wedding when she comes down so she knows you still want to get to know her.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

oohhh gotcha!  Does she know u’re not really into drinking?

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I agree with Labor of Love, I think she sent the invite to be nice, since it came late and after RSVP’s.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m glad you worked it out!

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2009

You could perhaps find out where they will be going and send a bottle of champagne (with all your love…)?

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