(Closed) Invited to shower but not to the wedding

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Imean:  That’s completely up to you.

If you like her and have the time to go, you could go and bring something small. If it’s going to be a hassle for you to go or you don’t have the time/money then you can politely decline.

Seeing as the wedding is 7 weeks away, invites may not have gone out yet and you might still be getting one. But she also may be thinking since you said you don’t need an invite that maybe you can’t make it.

As the guest you can do whatever you like. Either go or don’t go, but RSVP within the alloted time and just be cordial about it all.

Post # 4
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i just had the opposite happen. friends younger sister is getting married and i receievd the wedding invite.. talked to friend and she said she already threw the shower…


if you are a “friend” of hers then go to the shower. 7 weeks is still a long time before the wedding… maybe invites arent coming til 5 week mark or 4 week mark..

Post # 5
685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Go if you want to.  I mean, there are no rules that say you have to.  If you think you’ll have fun, then go for it.

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