(Closed) invited to the bridal shower but not the wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: invite people to a shower but not the wedding?
    yes, nice to want to include them in some way : (1 votes)
    3 %
    no, rude rude rude ploy for gifts! : (33 votes)
    92 %
    meh, whatever, who cares : (2 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3574 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    That is NOT normal.  Only females invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower, and not all of them even get invited.  Sounds like she wants more gifts.  I think it’s very rude. 

    Post # 5
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    1132 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m not having a shower, but if I were, I wouldn’t invite people to a shower when they aren’t invited to the wedding. You may be able to bend the rule a bit if you’re doing a Destination Wedding, but even so, you should probably have an at home reception to pull that off.

    It seems a bit gift grabby since the point of the shower is gifts, and you’re not invited to the event for which the shower is being held.

    Post # 6
    Member
    7416 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’d decline. That is a total gift grab.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2534 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Just rsvp “no,” you don’t know her well & you’re not invited to the wedding.
    There’s zero reason for you to actually go.
    I agree that it’s rude. :/

     

    Post # 8
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    5192 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @ferdie224:  yeah… NO. That’s like saying “you’re welcome to bring me a gift but not to attend my wedding”. Don’t go.

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