(Closed) invited to the bridal shower but not the wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: invite people to a shower but not the wedding?

    yes, nice to want to include them in some way

    no, rude rude rude ploy for gifts!

    meh, whatever, who cares

  • Post # 3
    2393 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    That is NOT normal.  Only females invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower, and not all of them even get invited.  Sounds like she wants more gifts.  I think it’s very rude. 

    Post # 5
    741 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m not having a shower, but if I were, I wouldn’t invite people to a shower when they aren’t invited to the wedding. You may be able to bend the rule a bit if you’re doing a Destination Wedding, but even so, you should probably have an at home reception to pull that off.

    It seems a bit gift grabby since the point of the shower is gifts, and you’re not invited to the event for which the shower is being held.

    Post # 6
    5879 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I’d decline. That is a total gift grab.

    Post # 7
    1878 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Just rsvp “no,” you don’t know her well & you’re not invited to the wedding.
    There’s zero reason for you to actually go.
    I agree that it’s rude. :/


    Post # 8
    4097 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @ferdie224:  yeah… NO. That’s like saying “you’re welcome to bring me a gift but not to attend my wedding”. Don’t go.

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