Post # 1
Just wanted to get an opinion since there seem to be so many expects here and I myself have not been to that many weddings…. I was invited to a wedding this past summer that was held in the afternoon with a short “a cake reception” after…. During the cake reception I did not once see the bride or groom and didn’t see any of the wedding party until the last 10 minutes of it. And yes, there was a birdcage at a table to collect cards and gifts. As I was leaving I heard guests mentioning the evening reception and later that week saw photos o line of a massive reception held in a ballroom style venue! So this was no evening reception for close friends and family…. I felt a little offended. Almost like “hey we want your gift (money) and you can sit there through our endlessly long ceremony but we’re not paying for you to celebrate with us. Except for the sheet cake you can munch on while we’re taking photos. But no you still won’t see us before you leave.”
Post # 4
IMO, that is exceptionally rude. I would def not have gone if I had known.
Post # 5
Oh dear, how very guache!
Post # 6
I would have gone, given a gift, and thought it was rude.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I think it’s very rude to have tiered receptions. Everyone should be invited to the entire event.
I understand when a couple is part of a large church community and an open invitation is issued in the bulletin to the entite congregation, but that’s about the only situation in which it’s okay to invite people to just the ceremony. And in that case, there should certainly be no gift/card area.
Post # 9
Totally rude and inconsiderate.
Post # 10
Tacky, tacky, tacky. I attended a wedding where the bride and groom opted to receive a new car in lieu of a reception. So we were treated to cake and punch and a small group attended a lavish dinner later in the evening. I felt it was so unbelievably selfish and wanted to take my gift home. And this was a wealthy family.
Post # 12
I think that my main problem with this scienereo is how they handled it. While inviting people to the ceremony that are not invited to the reception is a sticky situation no matter what you do, I think that it would have been better if they had been honest about having a reception, and explained to you why it was done as it was.
Post # 14
I don’t think it’s TERRIBLE, but I agree… Very, very rude. It’s one thing if the couple can’t AFFORD a big fancy reception, and just wanted a private catered dinner with close family, but having a MASSIVE reception afterwards… No way. I would be so upset. I would almost be tempted to say something.
Post # 15
What? I definitely would not have gone if I knew. The ceremony is the boring part for me. I only attend them to get to the reception, so if I knew I wasn’t invited I’d say screw it.
Post # 16
I think its very rude! I can understand if the person(s) who invited you had mentioned that they would love to have you there but there were limited on number of guests they could invite but would still love to have you there for the ceremony, I *might* understand. I don’t think it was right of them to expect you to give them any kind of gift at all. And the fact that it was a big ball type event, I would be pissed.
I would feel used…and like I wasn’t good enough to make the reception cut.