(Closed) Invited vs. actually showed up!

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

We invited about 120 and 91 RSVP Yes

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee

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practicalbee:  We had 10 people who were uninvited. My Mother-In-Law engineered it so there was enough food and chairs without telling us that the extra 10 people were coming. They were pretty noticible when total number of attendees was 45 including the uninvited 10 people. 

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Basically everyone who I didn’t already know wouldn’t be able to come RSVPed yes, and there were only two no shows (a woman who was in labor and her husband). I wouldn’t count on too many no RSVPs or no shows. 

Post # 35
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We invited 70 people, including kids and had 59 RSVP yes. The the day before a friend asked if she could bring her husband who was going to be out of town but changed plans and the day of my husbands great aunt ended up coming to the reception when his whole family swore there was no way she was going to go lol. Luckily our venue was really flexible since we had to change our seating plans to inside because of rain so it was easy for them to add 2 more seats.

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

We have a limit of 150 and are probably going to invite about 200 as well.  95% of people will have a 5 hour drive, some of them are somewhat distant relatives, and many are kids or +1s.  I’m not really worried.  

I plan events for work all the time, and I think its a little ridiculous to plan for everyone to show up, unless it’s a very small event.  I’d say at most 90% and that’s if they’re all close physically and emotionally to you.

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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practicalbee:  In my experience one of two things will happen if you do not specifically say adults only somewhere. One, people will start emailing you/calling to ask if they can bring their kids. Those who do not will assume that their kids are invited, especially if you say “The Johnson Family” and will bring them. If you do not want kids to come you will need to be specific about that and it should be an across the board policy.

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

We did specifically invite kids.  We have some that are bringing their kids, some that are not, it is running about 50/50 on that one.  Some people just want a night out!

Post # 40
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Literally, I was adjusting my guest list 1 day before my wedding. We had a headcount of 105 the night before the wedding, but there ended up being 107 the day of (including kids and +1’s).

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