(Closed) Invited vs attended: What was your drop-off?

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

We invited 100 people to our Destination Wedding, and 70 showed up.  Probably about 80 RSVP’ed yes, but about 10 dropped out within the last 2 months of our wedding date, due to various reasons. 

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Carmen\'s Lakeview

Our venue said between 10-15% is usually the dropoff (lower if it is a local wedding, higher for people out of town). We invited 115 and had 81 attend. We had a pretty good sense of who was/was not going to come anyways though. 

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

It’s interesting to see this…We’re sitting at about 170 guests for a venue that holds a max of 150 (fire code), and it seems like just about everyone is planning on coming.

About 80% are out of town, 65% out of state. And it’s the weekend after Labor Day so maybe we’ll get a little more attrition because everyone just went away for the long holiday weekend.

I’m freaking out.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We mistakenly invited 168 guests when we had planned on inviting 120. My husband used his full list instead of his pared-down list, and by the time we realized it we had to invite everyone. I was really nervous for a couple of weeks, but we knew that a lot of people weren’t going to come. It helped that we had a short engagement and only sent invites three months in advance (no save the dates). Plus, most people had to travel. I think we had 95 people RSVP yes, and I think 90 ultimately showed up, which is what we were hoping for in the first place! 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

angelaw2g:  I can’t remember the exact numbers, but I believe we invited around 160 and we had 152 come.

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

invited 162 had 148 RSVP yes and same number attended (though there was a last minute switch since my aunt was sick her daughter/my cousin came – unfortunately since we have a lot of family I limited it to first cousins) – it was a 2 hr drive for all the guests at least

 

I would invite the people you want to be there and not worry about the final number (unless you have one of those places where there is a minimum and you have to meet that number or pay that much anyway – in that case I would probably make sure that I had about 10-15 extra guests over that minimum)

Post # 22
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Helper bee

angelaw2g:  That’s just crazy and asking for major problems.  Do you really want to add that kind of stress (hoping for declines) to the weeks before your wedding? 

Ask your consultant what she plans to do if 175 show up (it DOES happen).   I’ll bet $245,823,689,283.19 that she doesn’t have a realistic plan.

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Post # 23
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Domestic destination wedding, ended up with 130/205 

i would not invite over capacity especially if it’s a local event. We budgeted for 150 but could have accommodated 200 if need be. Being -20 in the end was a massive budget saver.

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Commenting to follow! 

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee

sweetness09:  Yes, you should! I feel really bad that I gave him a hard time about who he was inviting and I think it made it hit harder for him when most of his invites RSVP’d no. I wish I had encouraged him to invite more people becuase then maybe a few more would have come (though, realistically, they wouldn’t have because they were people even more remote in terms of staying connected through the years). But I just feel bad I gave him a hard time (both to his face or somtimes just in my head) about wanting to invite, say, his high school friend’s parents, etc. He hadn’t seen them 10 or more years outside of a few other weddings. In the end, none of the freind’s parents (of course) flew across the country to see their kid’s high school buddy get married, so why did I give him a hard time? And then his high school buddies, only a few ended up making the trip out, so why did I talk him out of a few college buddies? They wouldn’t have flown in either. I should have chilled. The out of town invites have a way of working themselves out with the #s. Anyone who wants to fly across the country to celebrate us should have welcome 😛 

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

angelaw2g:  question, does your venue require a minimum # of guests? 

My venue required a minimum of 150 guests and if i didnt have that 150 guests, i would stilll be required to payfor 150. So if thats the same case for you then i would say to invite a few extra guests

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

We invited 125 and 120 showed up. 90% of our guest list was local and the other 10% (mostly) took the opportunity to come see their family here for Christmas. It was actually the first Christmas my moms whole family had been together in like 30 years. 

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

189- 135

Post # 29
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427 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Our venue holds 200….we invited 250 BUT I majority of our guest list are out of towners, so I think we are fine. *fingers crossed*

Post # 30
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

angelaw2g:  We invited 100 people and from that 120, 80 said they would be attending. Something important to note: About 90% of my family lives out of state, so I didn’t expect as many people as we received a yes for. I for sure imagined it would be far less than 80 (my ultimate dream was 50ish). Also, you’d be surprised who lives close to you who will not be able to attend for a host of different reasons. From that 80 people, only 75 showed up the day of. Two couples were no-shows and DH’s SIL never showed. 

My advice would be this: Plan as if every single person who RSVP’d yes would be attending. Many, many of my guests had to travel from out of state, fly into an airport 1.5 hours away from the venue, rent cars, drive down to the hotel (which was a bit pricey), and then drive home a day or two later–and we still had most of my out of state family attending. Depending on where you live, people may use your wedding as an excuse for a vacation (as many of mine did). 

Also, I wouldn’t invite people just for the sake of a “full house”. I could not imagine inviting people I wasn’t that close to–the cost of them attending will far outweigh any gift they could give you.

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