- 10 years ago
We are having a destination wedding and due to the exchange rate, the price per person is NOT cheap. The food alone is about $200 per person which doesn’t include favors, extra place setting and chairs, blah blah blah. Also note, it’s a small intimate wedding (30-40) for mostly close friends and family.
Well…one of our guests has rudely assumed she can bring a guest – a guy she has been semi-newly dating. In an email she recently wrote, "Just letting you know that me and ‘John’ will be coming…" The invites haven’t even gone out yet (just save the dates).
Our relationship with this guest is sort of weird – we know her well enough to invite her to our wedding but not well enough to know details about her dating life. I don’t know the status of her relationship with this guy – just that they have been dating. Also worth mentioning – of all our guests, she will know the MOST people at our wedding so she won’t be in danger of feeling "alone."
Because the wedding is small, we made it a point to only invite people we knew with the exception of only one person – a serious girlfriend of a close friend who we don’t know very well.
I DO want everyone to have a good time. I guess if she had just asked if it was okay – that it would mean lot to her – I would be a softie and just cave in. But I think it’s really rude she just assumed. And frankly, I don’t want to pay for him to be there since I don’t know him at all and the few times I casually met him, he made no effort to get to know me.
HOW DO I BROACH THIS SUBJECT WITH GUESTS WHO THINK THEY CAN JUST BRING ANYONE TO THE WEDDING?
(Note: I am a giant wuss)
Sorry I’m so long winded – this situation is a little complicated.
Thanks for any help!