(Closed) Invites for BMs

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I sent them invitations and i’ve received invites for every wedding i’ve been in. When I addressed them, I addressed them to “Bridesmaid Smith and Guest” versus just their names.

It’s still good to have a formal invitation. Sometimes I forget where people are getting married (Even if i’m in their wedding, lol) and the times of everything (plus the addresses!) so i’ve always slipped the invite into my purse that day.

Post # 4
1937 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m sending invites to the bridesmaids and groomsmen and minister.  Some people like to save the invitations for weddings they attend, especially if they are close to the couple (which I assume that being in the wedding party or minister makes them close to the couple).

Post # 5
5827 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think you should send them invitations. I mean, by your logic your parents and grandparents shouldn’t be getting invites either and would they be ok with that?

Post # 6
6593 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

My Wedding Party is definitely getting invites!

I would be disappointed if I didn’t receive one! I crete wedding planning scrapbooks of all the wedding events for the brides who I stand up for and the invite is an important part to put in the scrapbook! I am not necessarily saying that one of your Wedding Party members might be making you a scrapbook but they may be disappointed none the less!

Post # 7
1955 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

I think you should send them all invitations, I know personally I love getting an invitation and I would be a little bit hurt if I didn’t receive one…

Post # 8
1580 posts
Bumble bee

I agree with the others that you should send them invitations. Who doesn’t like to get snail mail?? And they might feel unappreciated if you don’t send them an invitation like everyone else is getting, just so you can save a few dollars.

Post # 9
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think you should send them invites.  I would be hurt if I didn’t get one.

Post # 11
510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’ve been in two weddings, and received invites. I think it’s a major faux pas if you don’t send invites to your wedding party. They’re still your guests!

Post # 13
2829 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@ ejs

I am the same way. I’m a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a friends wedding in a month and if it weren’t for the invite being stuck to my fridge I would have forgot the date… in fact I HAVE forgot the date/times several times despite the invite being right there [which I periodically go and check whenever I feel foggy on the details!]

I’ve always been sent an invite regardless of being in the Wedding Party. The only time I didn’t personally recieve an invite was when my cousin got married –he’s usually overseas on duty, so he only sent out invites to the ‘head’ of the families [aka his aunts and uncles] with the understanding that all the familiy was invited, but that he understood not everyone could make it on such short notice [which is why he didn’t bother sending out 1-200 invites].

Post # 14
368 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I sent the members of our bridal party invitations, but NONE of them sent back their RSVP. I figured they might want the invitation as a keepsake (mainly my sisters). I think it’s nice if  you send them an invitation, but honestly they didn’t seem to care too much about ours because we still got asked where the church was and what time everything was lol.

Post # 15
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We just sent out our save-the-dates the other day and my Maid/Matron of Honor didnt receive hers. She knew that we were sending one to her because, we printed the Save-The-Date Cards at her house, labeled them at her house and mailed them out the next day… but i still got an “I guess were not invited then” response from her. So, i would suggest you send them invites anyway, just to diminish the possibilities for hurt feelings.

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