Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2016 - Stone Garden Events
I sent out the STDs several weeks ago. I will be sending out invites soon. Three different friends have already reached out to me after receiving the STDs to let me know they cannot come for various reasons. Do I still send these friends an invitation, even though they already told me they can’t come? I don’t want to be rude by sending them an invite and looking like I expect a gift – I definitely don’t need them to go to the trouble of sending me anything. But I don’t want to be rude by NOT sending them an invite either…I’m afraid it would look like I’m removing them from the guest list. It’s no trouble for me to just send them an invite, I’m just wondering if I should.
*Edit* I just had another thought – should I just slip in a note into their invites mentioning that while I know they cannot join us that day, that we will be thinking of them and hope to get together another time? Also, that a gift isn’t needed, just their well wishes for the day?
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Post # 2
You should still send them an invite. Whether they send you a gift or not is beyond your control. They’ll do what they feel is right.
Post # 3
I would send them an invite just like you would anyone else. They may change their minds and be able to come after all.
Don’t add an insert and especially don’t mention gifts!
Post # 4
I love the idea of sending them an invite with a note, like you mentioned in your edit. That way they still feel wanted and appreciated!
Post # 5
You should still send them an invite. Even if they cannot come, they are still invited!
Post # 6
I have this issue as well, although it is just one person so far that has told me they definitely can’t make it. I’m still going to send them an invite though and then slip a little handwritten note in the envelope as well saying “I know you are unable to make it to our reception, however if anything changes, please know we would love to have you join us. Have a great time in Macchu Pichu (that’s where they’ll be during our reception)!” Do NOT mention anything about a gift, even to just say one isn’t expected.