(Closed) Invites: I messed up!! As a guest what would you think?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: If you recieved a response card with no return address and no stamp would you bother RSVPing?
    No. I'm not using my money to fix your mistake. : (9 votes)
    5 %
    Yes. This sort of thing happens all the time, no big deal! : (96 votes)
    55 %
    Yes, but I would think it's a little tacky... : (53 votes)
    31 %
    Other. Please explain. : (15 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2889 posts
    Sugar bee

    Chances are I would RSVP per phone or email as I don’t have the mailing addresses of many of my friends handy.

    ETA: I didn’t vote other.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2373 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2008

    Your mother sounds like a drama queen ๐Ÿ™‚ Tell her to cool off. You didn’t kill anyone ๐Ÿ™‚

    It’s not a big deal-  If I were a guest I’d contact someone asking where to send the RSVP or look on the front of the envelope it arrived in (your return address).

    Post # 5
    Member
    5800 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’ve gotten an RSVP envelope without a stamp before but I knew the couple well and they were mortified they forgot the stamp. I still give them sh*t about it but it wasn’t a huge deal.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1986 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I voted Yes, but I think its a little tacky, except I don’t really think it’s that tacky it would just take me longer to return it because from some reason me and stamps don’t get along.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1391 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Honestly, I would probably think you were in a way big hurry or so excited to have them done that maybe you just accidentally skipped mine. NOT a big deal. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Well if most have confirmed already, I’d say your down to almost the normal split between people that mail back the cards and the number you have to hunt down.  Maybe you can call the one’s you haven’t confirmed and let them know you realize about the oversight?

    Post # 10
    Member
    1766 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I wouldn’t think twice about it.  Carving out $0.xx (don’t know the rate in Canada) for a stamp won’t break the bank. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 12
    Member
    5118 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I really think that most people would be like missfireslayer and assume you just missed theirs in the pile. I’d play it off, no need to call everyone. Handwriting your address that they copy from the envelope and buying their own stamp won’t cause anyone to skip your wedding out of principle. ๐Ÿ™‚ And if you really are bugged by it, you can always somehow incorporate a little pack of stamps in your favors to ‘make up for the one you made them purchase.’ Haha. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    838 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I dont think people would be that upset over having to buy a stamp,I know I wouldnt but Im not huuuge on knowledge on wedding etiquette. But for me it wouldnt be a big deal,it would just mean me remebering to actually buy a stamp ( I am mega mega forgetful lol) x

    Post # 14
    Member
    10851 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I would probably just think it was an oversight, no big deal and RSVP via email or phone and ask for your address (if I didn’t have it already) so I could send it back to you in case you were holding onto them as keepsakes.

    Post # 15
    Member
    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Things happen. I however never go and buy stamps myself, so the likely-hood that I would return the RSVP nice and quick is slim to none.  (Now having gone through RSVPing nightmare I would probably be better about it).

    Post # 16
    Member
    193 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010 - University of Toronto Faculty Club

    I don’t think I’d care.  I’d probably just call or email, or if I was really close with the couple and knew they were excited about getting RSVPs I’d get a stamp myself.  I can’t guarantee your mom’s friends (for example) would feel the same way, but I personally wouldn’t be bothered by it.  Please don’t think all your hard work was for nothing.  I’m sure your guests are so excited to be receiving your gorgeous invite.

    As for calling around, that might be a good idea if you have guests that you think might be really offended by this, otherwise I wouldn’t bother.  People will figure it out!

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