Post # 1
So, last night I get a call from my mother. Her invite had finally arrived! I was very excited to hear what her reaction would be, but was immediately let down when the first words out of her mouth were, “How could you do such a terrible job on your invites!?”
Not what I had been expecting to hear!! The invites themselves were flawless. I had DIYed beautiful invites with good quality card stock, straight even backings, and matching envelopes. The only problem is that I had been in a hurry and had Fiance help me out towards the end. He placed all the response cards in the envelopes and I guess in our hurried pace we had an over sight: We forgot to return address and stamp the response cards. Oops!
Now my mother is upset saying that it looks like we did a “half ass” job and “how dare we expect people to pay for a stamp to return our response!” I feel terrible. All my work feels like it basically just went down the drain. I’m not sure what to do. Is my mom just being hard on me or do you think this is a major faux-paus.
Be honest bees! If you received a nice invitation with a response card that had no return address and no stamp what would you think? Would you bother RSVPing? Any suggestions on how to fix this?
Side note: Most of our guests are already confirmed because this is a destination wedding and nearly 70 guests have already booked and paid for their early bird seats because they got their original info from the Save-The-Date Cards.
Post # 3
Chances are I would RSVP per phone or email as I don’t have the mailing addresses of many of my friends handy.
ETA: I didn’t vote other.
Post # 4
Your mother sounds like a drama queen 🙂 Tell her to cool off. You didn’t kill anyone 🙂
It’s not a big deal- If I were a guest I’d contact someone asking where to send the RSVP or look on the front of the envelope it arrived in (your return address).
Post # 5
I’ve gotten an RSVP envelope without a stamp before but I knew the couple well and they were mortified they forgot the stamp. I still give them sh*t about it but it wasn’t a huge deal.
Post # 6
Our return mailing address is on the outer invite envelope if that helps..
Post # 7
I voted Yes, but I think its a little tacky, except I don’t really think it’s that tacky it would just take me longer to return it because from some reason me and stamps don’t get along.
Post # 8
Honestly, I would probably think you were in a way big hurry or so excited to have them done that maybe you just accidentally skipped mine. NOT a big deal.
Post # 9
Well if most have confirmed already, I’d say your down to almost the normal split between people that mail back the cards and the number you have to hunt down. Maybe you can call the one’s you haven’t confirmed and let them know you realize about the oversight?
Post # 10
I wouldn’t think twice about it. Carving out $0.xx (don’t know the rate in Canada) for a stamp won’t break the bank. 😉
Post # 11
@maureen9004: I think you’re right. The wedding is totally stressing her out and she’s gone a little nutty! She’s so worried about what people think…
Thanks ladies. My stomach turned upside down over this! I know it seems trivial, but I don’t want people to think that I didn’t put care into these.
What are you thoughts on me possibly calling around and explaining the mistake? Would that make things more obvious?
Post # 12
I really think that most people would be like missfireslayer and assume you just missed theirs in the pile. I’d play it off, no need to call everyone. Handwriting your address that they copy from the envelope and buying their own stamp won’t cause anyone to skip your wedding out of principle. 🙂 And if you really are bugged by it, you can always somehow incorporate a little pack of stamps in your favors to ‘make up for the one you made them purchase.’ Haha.
Post # 13
I dont think people would be that upset over having to buy a stamp,I know I wouldnt but Im not huuuge on knowledge on wedding etiquette. But for me it wouldnt be a big deal,it would just mean me remebering to actually buy a stamp ( I am mega mega forgetful lol) x
Post # 14
I would probably just think it was an oversight, no big deal and RSVP via email or phone and ask for your address (if I didn’t have it already) so I could send it back to you in case you were holding onto them as keepsakes.
Post # 15
Things happen. I however never go and buy stamps myself, so the likely-hood that I would return the RSVP nice and quick is slim to none. (Now having gone through RSVPing nightmare I would probably be better about it).
Post # 16
- Wedding: December 2010 - University of Toronto Faculty Club
I don’t think I’d care. I’d probably just call or email, or if I was really close with the couple and knew they were excited about getting RSVPs I’d get a stamp myself. I can’t guarantee your mom’s friends (for example) would feel the same way, but I personally wouldn’t be bothered by it. Please don’t think all your hard work was for nothing. I’m sure your guests are so excited to be receiving your gorgeous invite.
As for calling around, that might be a good idea if you have guests that you think might be really offended by this, otherwise I wouldn’t bother. People will figure it out!