(Closed) Invites! Is this tacky?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I wouldn’t word it exactly like that, maybe go for ” 2 seats have been reserved in your honour” or something similar.  If I got an invitation saying who to rsvp for i’d be a bit insulted the couple thought i would be that rude lol.  Most people wouldn’t dream of over stepping the mark so I’d be more subtle…

Post # 4
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@rangersbride:  I agree with this.  I might also list the names, i.e. Jane Doe and John Doe, 2 seats have been reserved in your honor.

Post # 5
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Are you listing who exactly is being invited somewhere on the invitation? If so, then that is “supposed” to inform the guest who all is invited. I plan on putting the names of the people on the RSVP card as well as how many seats are reserved the them and they fill in how many of those seats they’ll be using.

Post # 6
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yeah, I think that’s tacky.  But you can say the bit about “2 seats are reserved in your honor”

Post # 7
2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Your invitation’s envelopes already designate who you have invited. If that’s not enough, design the RSVP card to say:

____ seats have been reserved in your honour

____ persons attending 


____ of ____   ( ) WILL ATTEND ( ) WILL NOT ATTEND


Post # 10
3266 posts
Sugar bee

Instead of writing something on the invites that implies that you think all your guests are rude boors, just follow up with the few folks who do not follow the rules.

Better to wait for an actual offense to occur before chastising everyone.

Post # 11
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

We did “___ seat(s) have been reserved in your honor”, and no one has tried to add extra people.

Post # 14
354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Our RSVP cards will say:

____ invited    ____ attending     ____ declining

That way we can fill in how many are invited and there’s no room for mistakes.  I was inspired by a friend’s reply card that read the same way, and I didn’t find it offensive at all. 

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