(Closed) Invites lost in the mail. What to do?

posted 5 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Hmmm provided your RSVP deadline isn’t RIGHT before the wedding, I would probably wait until the RSVP deadline and then start calling people. In the meantime if you see/talk to people that are invited ask them if they got the invite. You can let them know what’s going on so they don’t feel like you’re rushing them before the deadline.

Post # 3
46604 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

MsGinkgo: I wouldn’t wait until your rsvp date. It would be very short notice for anyone to make plans if they wanted to attend

Do you have everyone’s email addresses? I would send a group email to those from whom you have not already received rsvp’s “We found out that some of our wedding invitaions have not been received. If you get this email and did not receive an invitation, please let us know asap.”

Post # 4
4040 posts
Honey bee

I swear the USPS hates brides. One of my 1st daughter’s invitations went missing (hand cancelled at the PO) – it never came back in the return mail, either. One took 8 days, to get to my cousin, who lives 2 hours away.

One of my 2nd daughter’s Save the Dates disappeared. The groom’s uncle had no idea he was getting married. And when I mailed the shower invitations (I mail all wedding related things directly from the post office), one dissapeared that had to go 2 miles, and the groom’s grandmother’s took 12 days, to go from Philadelphia to Pittsburgh.

Therefore, we had to e-mail, call, or text everyone, who was invited to the shower, to see if they got their invitations. It may be a no-no, but I’m handing out wedding invitations, when guests leave the shower, and mailing as few as possible.  I’ve had it!

Post # 6
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think making sure that everyone got their invites is ok. You don’t want someone to be offended who you invited all the sudden think they are no longer invited. I would reach out and ask everyone. My parents got their invite 3 weeks later then everyone and it was all broken and sad looking. Some of our friends didn’t get it so I was glad I investigated. I was mad cause I spend $7 an invite. Was a glass message in a bottle with sand and sea shellto for our destination wedding. 

Post # 7
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

MsGinkgo:  You could still find ways to contact people (phone? facebook?) this is kind of a big deal. I think how you say it will make it clear that it’s about the lost invitations and not about them rsvp-ing asap. I think julies had a great statement that you could use. 

Post # 9
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

MsGinkgo:  that is a grrr… do you have a spreadsheet on your computer of your guests? could help!

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