(Closed) Invites out…Calls Challenging my no kids request!!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

stay consistent! tell everyone no and try not to let it bother you. if they’re important to you, they’ll be there.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Stick to your guns. If they don’t come you’ll save some case.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m sorry that happened to you, the best I can think of is to explain the dramatic number difference, 60 to 130 is HUGE! Tell them that you would love it if they come and suggest that they hire babysitters together with other family member so save money/finding one. I think its pretty silly that people cant find a sitter for ONE night.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Well congratulations on the 15 years! that is awesome! and people are just so rude 🙁 I don’t have much advice but stick to your guns if this is important to you. after all it is your “party” and you can say who goes and who doesn’t!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Blech! Sorry you’re being pressured like this. It is the folks that challenge you that are being rude, not you. For anyone that calls, stand your ground. If they get huffy and say “well I guess I can’t come then if I can’t bring my kid” you say, “I’m so sorry, we’ll miss you. Thanks for letting me know early.” and hang up. Listen closely for their jaw to drop on the other end before you hang up. How dare they impose and attempt to diminish something that is special for you by saying it is “just a party.” Well, THIS is NOT a debate. This is not a discussion for them to ask questions regarding kids. This is for them to respect the invitation and that is that! Good luck!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You might even consider preemptive strikes by calling them first, making sure they got the invitation, and letting them know you appreciate their understanding regarding adults only. You might even have a list handy of local professional child care to provide in case they ask for some help. If they’re respectful of you, great. If not, sorry, but this is the request and you knoooooow they will be such mature understanding daaaaaaarlings and respect your wishes, yes???? hehe 😉 Hang in there.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Cornflakegirl: Yes, practice this before the call! You are doing the right thing. I have two children and I would NEVER do that. I get a babysitter or don’t come. It’s not their party. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Don’t give in to that nonsense. People can easily find sitters….inlaws, neighbors, aunts/uncles a local highschool girl who babysits in the area? haha I would suggest that too!

If someone calls and says “we can’t make it unless we can bring our kids.” Simply reply ” I’m sorry to hear that..neither one of the grandparents can set that evening aside or possibly a friend, aunt or uncle? We’d love for you to be there but if you cannot find a sitter we’ll have to just send pictures!” 

Weddings are for adults. Children don’t appreciate the work that goes into an event such as a wedding or in your case a vow renewal and they don’t understand the importance of it. Children stampeeding around, yelling, crying, throwing fits and flying around hyper off soda and sweets is not neccessary.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think every one of us who chose to not kid had to deal with it. 

I know I dealt with a lot of backlash and I know how upsetting it is. Just stick to your guns, you cannot make everyone happy and this is YOUR day and YOUR wedding, not theirs. We spend so much time trying to juggle everyone’s needs when we are planning a wedding and it’s really draining.

I feel for you. Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. All of us who made the same choice had to deal with the exact same thing. Just stick to your guns, even though I know it is upsetting

 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Cornflakegirl: Yes, practice this before the call! You are doing the right thing. I have two children and I would NEVER do that. I get a babysitter or don’t come. It’s not their party. 

Post # 16
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Newbee

I would never give someone a hard time. Knowing what it costs now a days its crazy that people question it. Probably the same ones that wouldnt watch them if they brought them

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