Post # 1
So we are just starting to compile a list of invites for our wedding and have a question relating to invite etiquette. When it comes to coworkers, are you expected to invite a coworker’s whole family? I think a spouse is completely reasonable and expected, but he is positive that he should be inviting his coworker’s (a superior) entire family (wife plus four children). He is good friends with the coworker but has never met the wife or children. It’s not that he personally wants them to be there, he just think it’s good etiquette to invite someone’s children (even if you don’t know their names or have never met) to your wedding – he also thinks his coworker expects it. I think it’s insane.
Help! Are we breaking some major secret rules by sticking to spouses only?
Post # 3
You don’t have to invite anyone’s children if you choose not to.
Post # 4
Spouses only is perfectly fine.
Post # 6
I think it depends a lot on your child policy at the wedding and your relationship with this person. Are all your family and friends allowed to bring their children? If so, I don’t think you can exclude a few kids from one person.
I know you may not have necessarily met the children, but how close is your fiance to this colleague? I’m very close with a coworker, and she’ll be invited to the wedding along with her fiance and their son (both of whom I have never met), because she’s such a good friend of mine, I wouldn’t want her to have to leave them behind, and I’m only too happy to have my friend’s family at the wedding
Post # 7
Nope. We will only be inviting children of family. Not of friends, and certainly not of coworkers.
Post # 8
inviting the children of co-workers is not necessary but the spouse of course.
Post # 9
NO way …. we only invited kids that were part of our family. I love kids at weddings but seriously there’s a limit.
Post # 10
Nope definitely not – we didn’t.
Post # 11
Are you inviting everyone elses kids? If so, invite them. Otherwise, 4 kids is a damn lot… and kids don’t need to be invited at all if you don’t want them there!