(Closed) Invites sent out frustrations have already begun!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Did you have people ask to bring someone after they received the invite? Or invite themselves?
    Yes : (19 votes)
    73 %
    No, thank god! : (5 votes)
    19 %
    If you said no I secretly hate you for having it so easy! : (2 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    263 posts
    Helper bee

    Haha – we’re just inviting family to start and seeing how that goes for a month… sending our invites out in a couple days, see how that goes! I’ve already had people expecting an invite that I would’ve never thought of too! Oh yeah… really? I think the key is to keep saying no, sorry, really small venue/very close/small wedding, etc. Just say no! People just won’t/don’t understand unless they’ve planned a wedding, but they’ll deal with it….

    Post # 4
    Member
    1710 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    Haha, I need to get mine out…we’re writing the names of the people invited on the RSVP cards.  I’m sure people will try to add extra names.  Oy…

    Post # 5
    Member
    3885 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I really don’t find it as rude as some do, when guests ask if their invite covers so-and-so, because not everyone is a master of the super secret hidden language of invites, inner envelopes, and seats in their honor. Don’t take it personally. They’re just asking— which is far more polite than either randomly showing up with a date, or assuming that you hate their boyfriend.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1293 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    i am so nervous for these situations. it can be so awkward! I know that I am very understanding of others weddings  and understand their invites clearly, but I feel like there are some folks that just .. dont consider numbers and etiquitte in inviting/ guests. 

    Post # 7
    Hostess
    7560 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I think they do get that there are a set number of seats, that’s why they’re asking you to add on someone. Like fishbone said, it’s annoying, but at least they’re not just showing up with someone. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    8695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’m allowing all guests a +1 but NO KIDS AT ALL. I’m nervous of how that will go down. These threads just make me more anxious/nervous.

    Post # 10
    Member
    667 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I am so nervous about this!! Sending ours out in April..Oh boyyy.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1653 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @SageMustard:  I have a feeling that what you wrote is going to be my near future!  Invites going out in about two weeks.  I did the exact same thing as you with “we have reserved ____ seats in your honor” mainly- b/c of kids.  In total if everyone that would come brought their kids, we’d have about 20- that’s too stressful just thinking about it!

     

    Sounds like you are handling it well though, keep on 😉

    Post # 13
    Member
    8695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @SageMustard:  yes, but I’m sure I will go through a lot of frustrating messages/calls bc of no children so it will still be annoying!

    Post # 14
    Member
    3267 posts
    Sugar bee

    @SageMustard:  Do not feel bad or guilty.  They are the ones who are being rude, by questioning your guest list and intellegence.  Clearly if you indicated 1 seat, then obviously Fritz their neighbour is not invited.

    You are being perfectly polite.  They are being boors.

    Post # 16
    Member
    8724 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @fishbone:  Me too.

    I also don’t get why it is so upsetting to many. Isn’t it nice to know that lots of people even ones not invited want to come and see you get married and celebrate with you? Why is that such a bad thing?

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