(Closed) Invites to coworker weddings that are getting awkward!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@cranberi58: WOw thats so awkward! However, I wouldnt say anything to either of the brides. Who cares if people think you guys cant go anywhere without your best friends? Its not that big of a deal. Let people be rude because you can take the high road and know yourself that is not the case. Since you arent close with Bride #1 anyways, it doesnt really matter what she thinks of you! Good idea to send individual invites though – no one wants to be invited by a bulletin board!

Post # 4
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree no one wants to be invitied via bulletin board, it feels like an after thought…

Post # 5
711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

If you are close friends with bride #2 I dont think you should have to mention that you are attending because you want to – she should know that. however if it ever comes up in conversation even as joke you could always set the record straight.

Post # 6
201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree with shelbs. I feel for you, cranberi58. That situation sounds so uncomfortable. Gossips like Bride #1 are intolerable. I hope it gets better for you! Good luck!

Post # 7
141 posts
Blushing bee

Gosh, you know I really would try not to worry about it.  People are being ridiculous and gossiping – at work, no less – about you when you did nothing wrong.  You don’t have to go to every wedding you’re invited to.  An invitation is not a subpoena.  And as you said, it’s not like you actually got your own invitation – the bulletin board thing is very lame, and would make me feel like well maybe they don’t REALLY want us to come, it’s a courtesy, but they’re hoping we wont – anyway. 

With that said… next time I’d make up a little white lie about why you can’t attend.  Like you know now, “too expensive / too much trouble” doesn’t really sound good to a bride.

But you really did nothing wrong – they are being immature, and it will all blow over eventually.  I wouldn’t say anything about it to anyone – especially since it sounds like the info came second hand.  I.e. more gossip.

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