(Closed) invites to family who can’t attend

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I still sent invites to people that I knew wouldn’t be able to make it because I wanted to make sure they knew I was thinking of them. From what I heard they appreciated being invited even tho they couldn’t make it.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We have several people out of country that won’t be able to make the wedding.  I believe it is still respectful to send the invitation so that they know that you want them there on your special day. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m curious about this too because my fiance’s sister added a lot of people that can’t come but to still send an invite… I hope they don’t feel like they have to send us anything. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Grandparents FOR SURE need an invite!   Even though they can’t come, they would still love to have an invitation to their grandchild’s wedding.   I know what you mean though about feeling as though it’s asking for a gift – trust me, it’s not, especially with the older generation. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We’re sending one to a great aunt who is bedridding with a hand written note telling her how much she means to us and we’ll be thinking about her on your day.

We didn’t want to just send an invite and have her be all offended or upset and feeling like we dont understand her position.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I would include a nice note with the invitation or follow up with a phone call, saying you completely understand their situation but just wanted to let them know you were thinking of them.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I sent invites to family who will not be able to attend.  I didn’t include any of the reception or registry info.   I wanted to send an announcement after we were married bu my mother wanted just wanted to announce our impending nupitals. 

Post # 10
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Newbee

I sent an invite to a relative who probably won’t be able to attend and just included a short handwritten note telling her that I understand if she’s unable to make it and that I’ll send photographs to her if she can’t.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We also sent short notes to the people we knew couldn’t attend along with the invitation. I think it’s a nice gesture to show them you would have wanted them there on your special day!

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