- 8 years ago
And it was a completely snarky, if I can’t bring the kids I can’t come NO!
It just goes to show you that even when you write in the number of people invited, when you write on the outer envelope the names of those people and spread the gentle word that only a few kids are permitted, people will still have the audacity to ask to bring them and flip out when they can’t.
The child in question IS my fiance’s godson. He is, however, local – and we have already discussed no kids with the exception of out of state family & out of state bridal party.
I wrote 2 on their RSVP card, not 4. The wedding is also at night (7 pm) and was originally no kids allowed. Our guest list genuinely IS overcapacity by 26 people already not counting children. I’ll also note that he just turned 4 years old. His younger sister is 2 and was part of the if they can’t come mantra.
When she asked, I simply wrote:
Unfortunately due to space restrictions, the only invited children will be those traveling from out of state. I hope you understand. We do wish we had been able to extend the invite further, but we are already beyond capacity.
She wrote back:
He is (fiance’s name) godson. It’s unfortunate, good luck with everything.
She then got off the chat message and unfriended me on Facebook! This mind you, is my fiance’s former stepdad’s sister (former step-aunt). The child is her daughter’s son and then she has another daughter as well. When my fiance was asked to be the godparent of her son, he was completely happy to do so. We attend both kids birthday parties and always make sure they are acknolwedged.
Sad. I’m still not going to budge. A total of 5 children will attend – My MOH’s two kids who are flying from El Paso, TX with their parents who are both in the wedding, one 13 year old cousin who is coming with my Aunt from out of state and 2 of 4 nephews, one is nursing (my sis in law is a bridesmaid) who are coming with my brother from out of state.
**EDIT: Please do not turn this into another thread about kids at weddings. I’m only posting because the reaction really caught me off guard and frankly was hurtful. I’ve been very honest about how many tears were cried over this issue and I don’t wish to debate it further.**