- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
So, off and on I’ve thought about if I should or should not invite my dad’s sister to the wedding.
Nobody in our family (mom, dad, siblings) have spoken to her since my grandmother (dad’s mom) died. Prior to her death, she fell and broke her thigh, then came to live with us. My aunt was not happy with this, she wanted my grandmother in a nursing home, so she stopped visiting her mother/our house or talking with either of my parents. She still sent my grandmother, siblings and I cards, sometimes with money for our birthdays and etc. My grandmother threw hers out saying my mom was more of a daughter to her than my aunt was.
Further more, when my grandmother was rushed to the hospital having a heart attack, my dad still called her and told her and she met him at the hospital. She was also at the funeral, but she did not come to the cemetary or lunch. We think she met with a lawyer during that time because shortly there after my dad recieved a letter from a lawyer threatening to sue if we did not disclose the will.
Sorry this has been long, but in short, I sent her a card mere months before I was engaged, when I heard she was in the hospital for ovarian cancer. She told a mutual friend of the family she wanted “the girls” (my sister and I) and only us to know about her condition. Not my parents or my brothers. I still sent the card and the response was selfish, only asking about me and to see me. Nothing else.
And Finally, my fiance thinks I should still invite her because she is still family and oh btw she is my godmother and we used to be close. I disagree. I don’t want to hurt my dad anymore than he has already been damaged. I just wonder if I will regret it or not. And should I even bother telling her that I am getting married?
I know its weird asking strangers on here so I don’t mind if you do not respond. Perhaps I just needed to vent. Thank you for taking the time to read. I appreciate it.