Post # 1
My parents are paying for the majority of our wedding (thank god). We are paying for the rehearsal dinner and other minor things. FI’s parents are not paying for anything.
My parents would like their names on the invitation since they are essentially paying for the wedding. I was originally going to go with the following:
“Because you have filled their lives with happiness, love, and laughter,
My parent’s names
invite you to join them at the marriage of their daughter
son of FI’s Parent’s name
on Friday the twenty-ninth of October, two thousand and ten
at four o’clock in the afternoon
The Columbia Station
Cocktail Hour Immediately After Ceremony
Strolling Reception and Merriment to Follow
Adults Only Please”
The more I think about it, should his parent’s names even be on the invitation at all?
I’m not quite sure where to draw the line on this one and don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.
Post # 3
Is it going to upset anyone if their names are on it? Are they going to be upset if their names are not on it?
Post # 5
I would probably leave their names on just to recognize them. Regardless of how much they are contributing to your wedding financially, they will still be your inlaws. Also, guests from his side may appreciate seeing his parents names listed.
Post # 6
Both parents deserve recognition of the wedding.
My fiances parents are 65 years old and retired. My paretns are 46 years old and have the money to give us to help. My Future In laws are planning on paying for our rehearsal dinner, which, all we asked for was a BBQ in our backyard. So…just because they essentially aren’t paying for the “wedding” I kept them in the invitations, they are equal to our big day regardless of money or not!!
Just an opinion!
Post # 7
I think it’s really a personal call. Etiquette-wise, I don’t think you have to have their name on it.. it’s only the “hosts” (or those who are paying for it) that are required to be on the invitation. The way you have it written is a nice gesture, but it’s not really required. So it’s up to you 🙂
Post # 8
Have you talked with your fiance at all? Perhaps he will have an opinion about wanting to recognize his parents? If he doesn’t care either way, I think it looks nice for the balance of your invitation. Although they might not be paying financially for the wedding, they (hopefully) are offering their support for your marriage!