(Closed) Inviting a +1

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What should Ms.GG reply?
    wait to send it back in hopes she may find someone to go with : (10 votes)
    31 %
    reply back for 2 now and let our friend know later if that changes : (5 votes)
    16 %
    reply back 1 now and leave it at that : (16 votes)
    50 %
    other : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    18643 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Does she have a friend that could go with her?

    Post # 5
    Member
    1120 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    If she was being invited to a wedding where she didn’t really know anyone else, I would suggest taking a friend as the +1. But if she’s not seeing anyone that she’d want to take to the wedding, and all her friends will be there anyway, then I’d just reply back 1, rather than trying to find a date just to be able to use the +1. I don’t know the bride and groom (obviously), but finding out they won’t have to pay for an extra person they don’t know might be a welcome surprise.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I would say wait until July 6.  We all like to get replies back early, but if they put July 6 as the deadline then they don’t really need to know until then.

    Post # 7
    Member
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    If you don’t have a person to invite, then just reply for yourself as a single guest and leave it at that. Most couples cannot afford +1’s nor do they want to pay for random strangers whom they will never see again and don’t care about them. At the same time, you shouldn’t be dependent on finding a friend to take with you to someone else’s party so that you are able to enjoy yourself, since that is a life skill that every adult (and young adult/teen) needs to learn.

     

    Post # 8
    Member
    1250 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    If she would like to have someone to go with, I’d suggest just waiting a little while and see how things go. If July 6 rolls around and she still doesn’t have someone she wants to ask, she can just reply back for 1. She should just be sure to reply by that deadline so she doesn’t drive the bride crazy!

    Post # 9
    Member
    22 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    A few years ago a high school friend of mine got married. At the time I wasn’t seeing anyone, but the invite was for Miss NomdePlume and guest. I ended up asking a good guy friend of mine to go as my guest and we had a very nice time. Since planning my own wedding I truly wish I had not done that. Why? Well…

    1. I did know most of the people at the wedding and while it was nice to have another friend there, he didn’t know anyone and so I felt as though I spent more time introducing him and making him comfortable than having fun with my friends whom I had not seen for quite some time.

    2. The couple planned the wedding on an insanely strict budget. Knowing now how much stuff costs I feel guilty for having them pay for a meal for someone they never met before and whom they will never see again.

     

    Post # 10
    Member
    965 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    i’d tell her to invite someone before july and then reply.

    Post # 11
    Member
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I think she should probably go alone UNLESS all of her girlfriends that will be there are in relationships. It always sucks to be the odd one out, in which case I’d tell her find a date.

    Post # 12
    Hostess
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    If she wants to find a date, I’d hold off on the reply. But if she’s fine going and hanging out will all her friends, reply back now as going solo.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I just wanted to add- if they couple offered her a +1, she’s not wrong or rude to accept it.  She could bring her dogwalker if she wanted and she wouldn’t be rude.  If the couple couldn’t afford it or didn’t want extra people there, then they wouldn’t have offered her the +1…

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