Post # 16
There are no ushers or “bride’s side” and “groom’s side.” This isn’t a wedding. It’s just the at-home reception (think big catered party). Fiance and I are having a small Destination Wedding in Puerto Rico with just our immediate family and bridal party.
They no longer live in the same house. Right after Betty told John her feelings, he moved out.
Betty is in counseling. John tried to get them to go to couples’ counseling but she said she just wanted to go alone and figure stuff out herself. I’ve suggested to John that he should do the same but I don’t know if he’s thinking about actually doing so or not. At first I was hoping that this marriage could be saved. I think John thought so too. But it’s past the point of saving now unfortunately. Divorce proceedings have started and I think John especially wants to get this over with as quickly as possible.
Thanks for all the advice everyone. I agree that it is best to invite them both and just let them work it out like adults. If that means that one or both of them choose not to come, I’ll totally understand. It’s just a crappy situation and I feel for both of them 🙁
Post # 17
If you are friends with them both, I would invite them both (just be sure to send separate invites, even if they still live at the same address). They should be mature enough to put aside whatever is going on between them in order to both attend and support you. I would just ensure that they aren’t seated near each other at the reception and let them handle the rest. As other PPs have mentioned, it might be an idea to mention that the other is still invited the next time you run into them (just so no one is caught by surprise).