(Closed) inviting a couple question.

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: should i invite him?
    yes suck it up, they are a package deal now they are sharing bodily fluids : (83 votes)
    68 %
    Nope its your day only invite the people you both love : (17 votes)
    14 %
    Dont invite either... solves the problem dont it? : (14 votes)
    11 %
    if you like pina coladas and getting caught in the rain... : (8 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Aww dang. I thought this was going to be a sex question. 

    Anyway, if they are an established couple (especially if they live together) you have to treat them as a social unit and invite them together.

    Post # 4
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    1769 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    that’s annoying, but I think it falls under “your guest will look bad, not you”. Just stick ’em at that dark table in the back where the photographer eats.

    Post # 6
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    587 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Pokemon:  I doubt this one person can really put a damper on the evening. Especially if he’s just quiet. I could understand your concern if he was loud and obnoxious and could cause a disturbance but he just sounds like an anxious, disinterested guy. I have a close friend with a bf exactly like that and I wouldn’t dream of not inviting him. That’s a huge insult to your friend.

    Post # 8
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    719 posts
    Busy bee

    @Pokemon:  We invited my FI’s sister and not her boyfriend. I’ve never met either one of them, but according to Fiance, the boyfriend is an active drug addict and they believe he is beating on the sister and she is tolerating it.  So the invitation only had her name on it and it was made clear to her that if he is there, they will both be thrown out.  Needless to say…she isn’t coming and neither is he.   

    Post # 9
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    298 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012 - Prairie Production- Chicago (loft)

    invite both or neither one

    Post # 11
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    46421 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think you already know the answer to your question- you just  don’t like it.

    Post # 13
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    6743 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Unless you are making a blanket rule that only fiances and husbands are invited and no boyfriends, I don’t even know how you could broach the subject and justify inviting only her and not him without flat out telling her that you think her boyfriend sucks a big one.  I’m pretty sure if you do that, you won’t have to invite either one of them (since the friendship will be over). 

    So, if you hate him so much that you don’t want him there, consider making it a rule at your wedding that only people who are engaged or married can bring dates.  Otherwise, you will have to either suck it up.  Sorry 🙁

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Because of your history with him (double dates etc) you should. If you didnt know much about him then you could get away with is assuming they were serious.

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