Post # 1
My friend from college is dating my ex’s (we are NOT cordial) best friend. We are having a destination wedding so it’s already a small wedding. I feel like I should invite her but I dont want her to bring her current boyfriend. Him and I are not friends and I think that would be awkward for my ex’s best bud to be at my wedding, especially because we have a very strange past and I think it’s inappropriate really.
Do I just not invite her and blame the small wedding? or do I invite her and ask her not to bring him?
Whats the etiquette on something like this??
Post # 3
@BigKTibs41: Is their relationship a serious one? Is she aware of the bad blood?
Either way, I’d think she would understand why you don’t want him there. You could just invite her with the understanding she won’t be attending since he cant either. Or invite them both and let him run back to your ex with all the gory details 😉
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@BigKTibs41: I think it’s a personal preference, I wouldn’t invite her because you can’t assume (or hope) that she will break up with this guy for your wedding.
Are you REALLY close? And intend to stay that way until your wedding date? That’s the only way I would invite ANY friend to a DW!
Post # 5
@BigKTibs41: when it’s a destination wedding, you should really offer the +1. if you really don’t want him there, don’t invite her.
i invited my ex’s best friend to my wedding. it wasn’t awkward at all. i am still friends with his wife and i used to work with him. when my ex and i broke up, this couple was very support to me as well and didn’t “take sides” which shows a lot of class.
Post # 6
@BigKTibs41: I had the same exact thing, where my FI’s friend was dating his ex’s BFF, and she is in fact coming to our wedding. It’s weird to know that she will probably be reporting back details to his ex, but whatever. I think given that your wedding is small and destination, it wouldn’t be too out of the ordinary to invite him without a guest.
Post # 7
Invite her and ask her not to bring him