Post # 1
Hi everyone…quick question (I think): I work in a pretty small office (part of a larger institution), and I’ve invited the “team.” We had a vacancy on the team, and it was recently filled. The guy is really nice, but I barely know him, and I’m not sure if I should invite him. I don’t want him to get the invite and think I’m insane for inviting an almost-stranger to my wedding, but I also don’t want to make him feel totally left out by not inviting him. Thoughts? Wedding is in 89 days and invites just went out (it’s mostly out-of-towners), but I could still get one to him pretty quickly. Oh, and you should also know that my last at this job is 2 weeks before the wedding, so it’s not like he’s going to be in my life post-nuptials…if that makes a difference. Help!
Post # 3
If you were going to continue working with him, I’d say that perhaps you should invite him. But… seeing as you’re not even going to be working there when the wedding happens, I don’t think you need to invite him. If I were him, I would not be hurt/surprised that I wasn’t invited. I think you’re in the clear.
Post # 4
Um… I say no.
I am positive he will understand.
My junior year of college I moved in with 3 girls. One of the girls was getting married that March (I moved in August before) and the other 2 roomies were invited since they had all been friends a while. I wasn’t previously friends with the girl (a last minute random roommate situation) and to be honest… while it was a little awkward that I was the only one in my apartment not invited to the wedding, I was also relieved. I wasn’t going to stay in touch with my roomie after her wedding and it would have just made me feel a little strange.
Post # 5
I’d say go for it. It may be awkward later if you don’t.
Post # 6
Since you are leaving, I would say no. You are inviting the people who can vouche for you in the future, but with so little work contact with this guy, he won’t be a part of your long term professional circle.
Post # 7
I agree with the other gals, since you won’t be there I would say don’t worry about it. Being a guy I’m sure he is happy he doesn’t have to make the awkward decision to attend a wedding for someone he works with who won’t be there after the wedding. I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 8
I agree, it might be a little different if you were staying afterwards but if you are leaving your job and he won’t be part of your life afterwards then no, you don’t need to invite him. Especially since you have already sent out the invites.
Post # 9
I’d say no, but if you get to know him better and change your mind later, you could always invite him closer to the wedding date. I was the new person at work about a year ago and one of my co workers got married a couple months later. She just asked me (no invitation) a few weeks before the wedding and explained that I had just started when she sent hers out. There were no hard feelings even if she hadn’t invited me.
Post # 10
Thank you guys so much! This is really great perspective for me–especially from you bees who were in my new coworker’s position! I think I’m going to hold off on inviting him, and if we get to be friends, I can always invite him later. The input is much appreciated!! 🙂