(Closed) Inviting adults only ???

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am having an adult only reception too, and many other bees are doing this. I love kids but we just dont have enough space for them. Our guest list is tight enough as it is and our venue wont take more than 175 people.

Post # 5
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762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Anxiouspeanut: I love kids, but IMO, I don’t think a wedding is a place for children, unless of course they are participating. I lost that battle with Fiance. He has 6 nieces and nephews between the ages 3-10, and he really wants them at the wedding. I can’t deny him that, so they are invited, but i told him that his sisters will be the one’s to make the decision in whether or not to bring them. Some of them have behavior issues, so I am hoping his sister’s decide to hire a babysitter. I just don’t want any problems the day of the wedding.

Post # 6
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25 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’d like to have just adults, but it simply can’t be done. I have brothers that are still kids, and then there’s some cousins and stuff, and we feel like we can’t exclude them. I’m sure it will be nice anyway 🙂 besides, a wedding is a nice excuse to get a baby-sitter and have some children-free time, so there’s a possibility that not everyone invited with kids even will bring them.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

We’re having adults only… but are having childcare for the kiddos that are part of the ceremony, so they have somewhere to be during the reception (this includes my son)… and also for Fiance sister who cannot come without her kids (they’ll be in childcare the WHOLE day)

I did NOT want kids at all messing up my day… or me possibly going to jail on my wedding day (bwahahahaha)

I decided this after the last wedding I attended… as soon as the ceremony started a little one starting ROARING LIKE A LION!!!!! seriously like every 30s through the WHOLE ceremony… yea it’s funny now but I don’t want that in my wedding! lol

Post # 8
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433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I  Originally thought I wanted adults only but my Fiance was seriously against it because he hated being left out when he was a kid. I think he’s right, it’s more important to have all the peple you care about there, rather than offending someone by not allowing their children.

Post # 9
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41 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We’re doing an adults only wedding and reception based on headcount as well…  We’re at the max of our venue capacity and our guestlist would have another 25 if we invited kids!  I do feel bad, but I’ve also heard from some of our friends who are parents that they’re excited to have a night out together to have fun and not worry about the kids.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

It’s your party, and you get to set the tone of it. If that means no kids, that’s perfectly okay. Just be prepared for some pushback, and make sure your VIP guests (siblings, closest friends, etc.) will be able to make it. Also, start practicing what you’ll say to those who complain… it helps to have a little script in your head so you don’t get caught off guard.

In my experience, it’s typically aunts, adult cousins and sometimes grandmothers who tend to have an issue with this; they see weddings as “family affairs.” Friends, on the other hand, tend to look forward to a night out without the kiddies. So be sure your moms are on board, because they may have to field some calls, too!

 

Post # 11
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659 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

my invites dont say no children, but we put a card with our website in the invites and on the website it says that it is an adult function only. the children menus at my venue is 35 :/

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think that is totally understandable and nobody should take offence to it. We are doing the same thing. We don’t want kids ruining our day and we want everyone to be able to let loose and drink since there will be an open bar.

We also don’t really like kids and don’t plan on having any ourselves so that plays a big role in our decision. Fortunately, there aren’t a lot of kids in his family, but like half of my family have children, but I’m not really that close with my family so I don’t mind not including them.

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We are having adults only with the exception for my FI’s 3 nephews who are 5,7 and 13. It has been frustrating when asking people for their addresses and they send us their names and their kids names. Sorry, you don’t get to pick who comes. My Future Mother-In-Law isn’t making things easy either. She told one of our guests that they could keep the baby out during the ceremony and then bring it for the reception…sorry, no kids at either…sorry! If they don’t come because of it, then they must not care about us. My cousin had an adults only wedding/reception and she had parents thanking her for giving them a night out without the kids. Get a babysitter for crying out loud! lol

Post # 14
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1501 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We love kids but had to cut them out. It is either an all or none thing and ther were over 20 of them on the list and we had to majorly cut our list as it was. Anyone we’ve talked to about so far is fine, the invites haven’t gone out yet and before we even said this was adult only there were a couple people who stated how they looked forward to a night out without the kids.

Overall you have to do what is best for you. No matter what some people will have an opinion that is oposit of yours.

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