(Closed) inviting alcoholic boyfriend?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

That’s a tough one.  How serious are they?  If you’re not that close with the girl, maybe you shouldn’t invite either of them just to eliminate the problem.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

just don’t include him on the invite.  she’ll get the hint.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

If you’re not that close with her, I’d just invite her solo. No “boyfriend’s name,” no plus 1.

Besides, she’s got to have some clue that maybe her boyfriend is no longer welcome at weddings after that catastrophe?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Maybe you could just invite her and say that you thought they were broken up, didn’t factor him in, and now you are over budget/capacity/whatever?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@flyinpig3: Ugh… I know alcoholism all too well, and it’s a disease that tends to thrive with the help of denial and enablement. Sounds like she’s pretty well helping the guy along on his way to rock bottom.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Normally I think you should invite people with their significant others whenever possible, but I can totally understand not wanting this guy at your party. Invite her alone, and if she RSVPs for him, you can tell her why he’s not invited. If she gets angry and decides not to show up… well, no loss to you, is it?

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I guess just leave his name off the invitation.  If she RSVPs with a “plus one” than tell her he’s not invited.  And maybe she’ll be pissed but that’s life – you shouldn’t have to worry about him ruining your reception .  I am actually concerned about something similar because my best friend in the whole world has a serious drinking problem and behaves like that (crying, punching, beating up hot dog vendors, he once blacked out and fell into a river in the middle of a Michigan winter) but he HAS to come so I’m just going to call the cops on his ass if he gets too crazy

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Just invite her without a +1.  If she comes back with his name on the RSVP, take it up with her then.  Hopefully she will get the message!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yah, if it were me, I would just not include his name on the invite, and then if she asks why, you can be honest….

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