(Closed) inviting an immigration officer

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think what she did for you was fantastic, but I think inviting her to the wedding is a little strange.  She won’t know anyone, and all she knows of you is from your immigration file. 

You could send her a nice thank you card with a wedding photo or a note to her supervisor, but I think a wedding invitation goes too far.

Post # 4
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85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

A thank you, a starbucks gift card, no invite, sorry

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I have to agree with Abbie.  I think a nice thank you card or a note to a supervisor would be very appreciated, but that an invitation would be a bit weird.  Congrats and I’m glad it all worked out for you!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t mind inviting her, it would probably be cool for her to see how happy her actions made you :3 it really is a thankless job.  Though because of her position even if you sent her an invite she would probably not accept due to wanting to make sure there was no ulterior motive for her processing it faster.  I’d say send an invite anyway, she will most likely not come but its a nice gesture :3

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

I would send her a thank you and a picture. I bet she’d get a kick out of a picture. 🙂

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think a picture or something wedding related would be nice.  An invite honestly could be perceived the wrong way. 

Post # 9
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3267 posts
Sugar bee

Send a thank you note, not an invitation.

Post # 10
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703 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i agree with everyone above me, and particularly steampunk angel- an invitiation would be so nice and show her how much you appreciated her helping you out, but because of her job it probably would innapropriate for her to attend. but definitely sending a thank you/gift/something like that would be so thoughtful! and congrats! thats very exciting 🙂

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Send her a big bunch of flowers (the ones with a vase so they’ll stay alive when she’s at work) and a card saying thank you, you’re awesome, etc.

It was a fantastic thing of her to do, but she probably would feel out of place at the wedding.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would totally want to invite her, but she might not be able to accept and may not appreciate having it look like you bribed her to push it through (though you totally didn’t!); that’s also a good reason to refrain from sending a gift card, even though it’s a really nice idea.

Agree with PPs who say to send a thank you card, maybe after the wedding when you send all of your other TYNs and you can say that you really appreciate what she did, she made the wedding possible, and gave you the greatest wedding gift of the day, or something.  It’s really nice that you want to show your appreciation!

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I work for a government agency in a position that can expedite things that usually take forever And have definitely had situations where ive saved peoples weddings, jobs and major vacations because i felt for them and I’d guess that she’s not allowed to accept gifts either. A thank you note  with a picture or if their website has a comments section a nice shout out that their supervisor will see is always appreciated.  I might think an invite is a cute gesture but we do have to be very careful to avoid the appearance that things arent above board so probably wouldn’t accept. 

 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have those urges as well, to invite people because they’ve gone out of their way to be kind to me. But it is a little odd when I think about it, and I think a thank-you note with a picture would suffice!

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